My turn for a DH VENT!! :(

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My turn for a DH VENT!! :(
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Thu, 06-08-2006 - 5:55pm

OK, I really need some calming vibes here so I don't ruin my entire birthday evening because I am so ticked off!!

::DEEP BREATH::

Michael called me a little while ago to tell me that he was leaving work soon to cook me a yummy birthday dinner (he should be walking in any minute). He was all mushy & sweet on the phone with tons of I LOVE YOUs and I MISSED YOU TODAYs and I CAN'T WAIT TO SEE YOUs. But that was just a little buffering, because then he dropped the bomb on me:

HE AGREED TO WORK SATURDAY NIGHT FOR ANOTHER DOCTOR WHO WAS SCHEDULED AND WANTS THE NIGHT OFF!! He is usually On Call Sunday nights, not Saturday nights, because of his seniority. But he traded with this doctor, and now will be off Sunday and work Saturday. Normally, no big deal. I wouldn't care at all, but. . .

MONDAY IS OUR 13TH WEDDING ANNIVERSARY AND TODAY IS MY BIRTHDAY AND WE SCHEDULED A DATE NIGHT FOR SATURDAY NIGHT!!

OK, I'll stop yelling in your ears now. . .

We even had a babysitter scheduled for Saturday already--my niece was coming. We were going to go out dancing and to dinner. I know my niece can't babysit tomorrow night! We can't go out on our actual anniversary, or tonight, because it's a school/work night.

Why is it that my husband CAN NEVER SAY "NO" TO ANYONE EVEN AT THE EXPENSE OF HIS FAMILY AND ME??!! Doesn't he realize how important it is for me to celebrate our anniversary with him this weekend? Forget the flowers and earrings and mushy card this morning, it's all null and void right now to me. Sorry, that sounds utterly spoiled, but I'm very angry with him right now!!

And he's so sweet on the phone: "I'm sorry, Baby" and "I'll make it up to you". Nope. Not good enough. We already had plans!! And the bottom line is: he can't say no to anyone. He gets suckered into these things, and gets taken advantage of, and he doesn't even care; but I care when it's at the expense of me and the kids. Family comes first. Marriage comes before career. This isn't even mandatory. He doesn't even *have* to work, he agreed to it!! What is wrong with him that he can't tell anyone "No"?? It has been the cause of many a fight between us over the years! Why isn't our Date Night for our *wedding anniversary* no less more important than letting this other doctor down? And why is this stupid doctor waiting until Thursday to ask Michael to work for him Saturday? And why is Michael agreeing? This doctor obviously "has plans" for Saturday night (probably with *his* wife), BUT SO DOES MICHAEL!!

I am just soooooooooo upset right now, I can't even see straight.

He said we'd go out "for sure next weekend" but next weekend is not our anniversary or my birthday. Now OK, our actual anniversary isn't until Monday, but don't you think when it's Monday you'd go out the weekend before??

I swear, I'm going to build a doghouse, and he's sleeping in it tonight. Forget a romantic evening. I think my birthday is ruined, and I'm really trying not to let it be, but I'm so upset with my husband right now, I can't see straight! I don't even want him to cook me dinner.

And what's worse--my mom is coming over. Great. Always a living joy. . . and yes, I'm being sarcastic. . . My birthday just went down the tubes.

I am just so ticked off at Michael. It makes me feel like he puts other people ahead of his family. Forget the mushy "I LOVE YOUs". Actions speak louder than words!! Am I being a spoiled brat to feel this way? Am I out of line here?? Someone give me some perspective!! I'm just so disappointed. . .

Sorry for such a long vent. . . I think I need some cheering up. Anyone out there?? :( Where's the "crying" icon when you need it?

Sofia




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Registered: 04-04-2006
Fri, 06-09-2006 - 12:11pm
Oh Sofia, I am soooooo sorry that he did that..... i think chat sat night is an awsome idea.... i will be there if i can.... time zones and all, until then:
((( AWSOME BIG HUGS)))
~Shannon

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