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| Thu, 04-12-2007 - 8:23pm |
I've been a lurker on this board for a while, and I thought I could ask you for some advice. My name is Elizabeth, and I'm mom to a gorgeous baby boy age 5 months. My DH and I have been married for 2 years. My problem is he has 2 kids from another marriage, a boy and a girl, ages 9 and 13 and they completely drive me nuts. I tried when we were first together to be a good friend to them, but they never accepted me as part of their lives and resent me for marrying their dad. I just gave up. My husband works long hours and I'm alone with them. They're mom only sees them on the weekends, and she's a total mess. I can't stand her. She's the ex from he**! She and I don't get along. My stepkids are a lot like her. They are ungrateful and demanding. When I look at them, I'm reminded of my DH's former marriage and relationship with his ex, because they even look like her. Frankly, I admit I'm jealous of my DH's relationship with my stepkids. I feel he puts them first and loves them most and I would just give anything to have him not have kids from a past marriage. It's really hard. It's so hard I find myself drinking a little during the day and into the evening to get myself through. Just a shot here and there, or one or two drinks, nothing major. I'm really unhappy. I love my son so much, and my husband too, and I want to stay home with my son, but I'm considering putting him in daycare and going back to work because I can't stand being around my stepkids anymore. If I did that, they would be latch-key kids though, because they're too old for daycare, and I don't even trust them in our house without me.
I welcome any advice you can give me.
Elizabeth

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I'm sorry, but are you for real?
Not everyone has the money or the desire to simply send the kids away when they are bored with them, or if they dont fit into thier perfect idea of thier world. I think that Elizabeth sounds like she is in a postition that could be very serious, and honestly, I cant see how one thing you said to her could be of any help.
I know I shouldnt respond to this, but I cant help it... I agree with what Sofia saidm you need to work on being compassionate.
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