need advice,its serious!

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Registered: 11-11-2005
need advice,its serious!
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Fri, 11-11-2005 - 1:43pm
Hi, i have a huge problem and dont really have anyone to talk to about it. I really need some advice.So heres the deal. Im a stay at home mom with no car,and no job. Ive been relying on dh to take care of the bills. The thing is,Hes addicted to vicodin and refuses to even try to stop taking it. He has so many excuses. He also just lost his job and isnt even trying to find another one. I have a 1 yr. old and a 3 yr. old. I have been on to him about getting a job and he thinks im just being a B**ch.I dont know what to do all he does is sleep because hes on pills. I would leave to show him that im not going to put up with it,but i have nowhere to go. I have no friends and my family is all in indiana. Our home is now in forclosure and he has no money for us to move into another home when it finally gets taken. Im really starting to panic now. Next month is christams ,and i would really love for him to just TRY to stop taking pills if we cant get our children any gifts or anything else. I think im in the worst situation i could possibly be in . Has anyone else dealt with a man who has and addiction? Im at my wits end here and really need help. Any advice would be GREATLY appreciated,nessa

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Registered: 11-13-2003
Fri, 11-11-2005 - 1:46pm

I'm very sorry for what you are faced with. I have never been in your shoes, so I can't really give you advise.

I am not familiar with the meds he's taking, but does he need a perscription? If he does, can you speak with the doctor that he's getting it from?

I wish you strength to get through this.

Lesley

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Registered: 02-20-2005
Fri, 11-11-2005 - 2:01pm

oh Nessa, I'm so sorry you are going through this!


Can you call family to come get you?


Do you have anything you can sell so that you can get a cheap cash car?


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Registered: 11-11-2005
Fri, 11-11-2005 - 2:05pm
Hi, Thanx for the reply. No, he doesnt have a prescription. He had one,thats how he got addicted but once he stopped going to the doctor he found someone to buy them from. I dont know how to do it without getting him into trouble. Hopefully he will realize what hes doing soon. Thanx again,Vanessa
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Registered: 11-13-2003
Fri, 11-11-2005 - 2:15pm

so sorry you are going through this.

Its unfortunate that its so easy for people to get ahold of pills like that. Maybe if you talked to your doctor he/she may have some resources or info for you? You shouldnt be going through this alone. Please get help, dont wait for your dh to realize that what he's doing is harmful to himself, you and your kids.

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Fri, 11-11-2005 - 2:42pm
In our area, we have a Women's Center that offers counseling, advice, etc. to women, regardless of their ability to pay. Check with your local police department and hospital, and in your phone book to see what resources are available in your neighborhood.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 11-11-2005 - 2:47pm
Also, what about your church, or if you don't belong one, a church in your area. They may have resources that can help you.
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Registered: 01-06-2004
Sat, 11-12-2005 - 8:39am
I have never dealt with this in my life, but I did want to send you some (((((((hugs))))))
This has to be rough for you and the kids and should not be put up with.
Is there any way you can get a hold of your family and have them come get you? I wish you the best for him and your family.

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Sat, 11-12-2005 - 10:38am
Hi, Yeah I think im going to do that. Im going to call my grandmother or something hes gotten worse just since yesterday.I dont think i have much of a choice but to leave.I think only then he will wake up. If he still doesnt I guess I dont need him anyway. This is going to be tough ,and im not sure how im gonna do it. But ill keep you all updated. Wish me luck!!,Nessa
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Registered: 09-21-2004
Sat, 11-12-2005 - 11:19am

Nessa, I am so sorry your family is going through this. What a huge challenge and especially around the holidays.


I am not very knowledgable on this subject but you might try Narcotics Anonymous and see if there is a spousal/survivors support group.

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Registered: 02-19-2004
Sat, 11-12-2005 - 11:25am
Nessa
I wish you luck. You are doing the right thing. Get help from family, friends or a local support group. Your priority is to keep yourself healthy so that you can take care of your children. They are worth it. The current situation is not good for them or you.
Good Luck
Josee

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