need major help w/6 yr old fast!!!
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need major help w/6 yr old fast!!!
| Sun, 01-25-2004 - 9:47pm |
I have a daughter who is 6 yrs old who i swear thinks she's 16! She does not obey me, nothing makes her happy, she aggrevates me on purpose, she talks back to me like she doesn't understand who's boss!!!!! She yells at me, complains all the time, and whines all day! If I ask her to do something she stands there and just looks at me until i have to yell at her to do it, then she says "your always mad at me" or "your always yelling at me". I have tried spanking her, taking the tv away, not letting her play w/friends, no toys. even to the extent of keeping her in her room all day long w/the exception of getting up for water and meals! Nothing works!!! she is such a problem child! I gave her a bath right now and told her when she gets out that she needs to clean up all the bath toys, when she got out she persisted on standing there until i had to of course yell at her...as she's picking up her toys i hear her mumble "i wish i had a different mom"!!!!! what am i doing that is so terribly wrong? I used to say the same thing when i was younger about my mom but i had a mom who beat the crap out of me just cuz i didn't do her laundry right when i was 9 yrs old along with many other things. My mom has even seen the way my daughter acts and cannot believe it! I have asked my mom if i was like that when i was little and she said "never". that i was very good. I really don't know what to do, i am resorting to counciling...anyone have any advise for me??? much appreciated!

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Angie
Laura from Utah and mom to:
Deven 11
Amber 10
Bryen 9
Jered 8
Mikel 6
Ceaira 4
Taryn 2
Taylynne 1.5
Zane 0.5
Kristin from California and mom to:
Alyssa Noel 6
Jason Ryan 21 months
Nobody said I am Sain! *smile* Well with that going on in the house and the stress of dealing with your son it does sound like you have your hands full. Do the chart with your son too, you don't have to wait for them to be acting out before taking action. Something else we do in our house to help give that one on one time is to date our children once a month. One month it is my turn the next my husbands and we take the children out on individual dates. It is wonderful to get them alone and hear what they have to say. Most are 12-18 months except for Mikel and Ceaira who are a whoping almost 3 years (34 months) apart. They keep us jumping that is for sure. *smile* Good luck and keep us posted if things are working. Like I said it will not be easy I know what you mean about just being fed up and ready to ring their little necks sometimes but we both know that all that gets us is more frustrated with the kid and ourselves because we know we didn't handle things right. O yea to answer How do I do it? Well schedule, we have a schedule, staying organized is very important. And never stopping doing laundry *L*
Laura from Utah and mom to:
Deven 11
Amber 10
Bryen 9
Jered 8
Mikel 6
Ceaira 4
Taryn 2
Taylynne 1.5
Zane 0.5
Yes, 6 year olds can be very trying! A friend once gave me some very wise advice ... "It is their job to push you and it is your job to draw the line" If they weren't pushing, they wouldn't be doing their job - right?? I tell myself this all of the time.
I had a day today where I was close to screaming ... all were misbehaving - 5 year old was backtalking, fighting with his brothers and sister, 4 year old was having a temper tantrum and the 2 year old was into everyone's stuff. I reprimanded, I did timeouts, I took away toys ... nothing worked. I finally took a book from the bookshelf ... announced I was going to the bathroom to read until they learned to behave. I shut the door and you should have heard the feet racing up the stairs and crying through the door apologizing. They were angels (at least for an hour but by then I had cooled off and was ready for the next battle).
Just remember, losing your temper usually makes it worse. They seem to thrive on it. Hang in there ...
mom2four
Laura from Utah and mom to:
Deven 11
Amber 10
Bryen 9
Jered 8
Mikel 6
Ceaira 4
Taryn 2
Taylynne 1.5
Zane 0.5
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