need some help with neighbor kid issues
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| Mon, 06-05-2006 - 1:27pm |
Good grief, this is getting old and summer has only begun! I need your ideas or help with my neighbors kids ages 7 and 4. The 4 yr old is always at my door front or car door and when she is not, the 7 yr old is or they are at the windows...lol. "Where you going?" "Can I go?" "Can I play with you guys?" "Can I eat here?" The neighbor is a SAHM too & her dh had a really good job with a huge company here until he was just fired (so he is home). I never ever see them and when I see the mom her ear is on a phone. My other neighbors think she is faking the calls. The kids are outside running the neighborhood.
The 4 yr old is a drama queen. She screams at everything! My kids and I were eating lunch in our basement watching a show when I heard her screaming...SCREAMING. Normally in the basement I can't hear anything, I never know if someone is at the door. I can not hear the doorbell from the basement. Our basement is a walkout and so is our neighbor's so I thought she was in her backyard but it continued louder and louder...I thought her mom would come...then I heard her yelling "Sydney, please help me! Please help. OH NO!" over and over. I get upset thinking this little girl is hurt on my property! I go running out the basement door and look in her backyard. Then I find her screaming as she is standing in front of my front door. It is a wasp. A freakin' wasp.
I should mention that I like the girls coming to my house but I am worried. I know they are safe and I do not have to worry about my kids wanting to hang out with them around the neighborhood. Last week, I had the 4 yr old playing in the basement when her mom came over to tell her to come home. It was time to get the 7 yr old from school. She was having fun with my 2 yr old so I suggested her staying until her mom returned with the 7yr. BUT I said, "Do you think she will get upset if she finds out you have left to get (7yr)?" It is probably not a good idea to leave her with me if she is going to flip out...The mom replies as she is walking away "Well, if she does it is YOUR problem. HA HA HA."
What would you do?


I don't know Shannon... it's a sticky situation. Maybe you could just set a certain time every day/week that the kids can come over. If they start hanging out in your yard again, just say "I'm sorry but we have family activities planned right now, but we'll see you tomorrow afternoon like we planned".
Sorry if I'm not much help... hopefully someone else will have some good ideas for ya.
I have the same situation where I live except for the fact that our neighbor's kids are 4 (girl) and 3 (boy). They come walking into my house without knocking! The boy is a TERROR! He throws rocks at my kids, not to mention they broke our swing set (it's a 100lb. weight limit) They are all overweight. The mother doesn't come out at all, and let's them run everywhere! I go out with my children, yet I feel like I should watch them as well because the mother is NEVER out. The boy was in the street when a car was coming and just stood there!
It's pretty worse then what I wrote. I did talk to the mom, but she doesn't care, as long as they are out of her hair! I'm getting sick of it. I keep telling my DH WE HAVE TO MOVE! (financially it's impossible) but I guess praying to the Lord to take our house away isn't good either! LOL.
All I know is that patience is what I need, and trying to plan things to get us out of here so they don't bother us (but with the gas prices) is out of the question too. I guess I just have to deal with it!
I can so relate. The neighbors directly next door drive me nuts sometime. They have a 6yo daughter that has the loudest shrillest scream on the planet and is not afraid to use it. Their 9yo son has issues. His social skills leave a lot to be desired and as a result he gets bullied alot, which he then turns around and bullies others smaller than him. I feel sorry for him, really. He's not allowed anywhere near my kids, my 5yo boy esp, with out myself present. They've never been in my house and are rarely in my yard to play. I made a point to keep my distance from the beginning. I'm not afraid to tell him to go home at the first sign of misbehavior. I like the parents ok even if I don't admire with their parenting abilities. There doesn't seem to be any rules over there. My kids are taught proper behavior, why aren't others? This swingset is going to be a big issue. They haven't been over to play on it yet and I'm sure I'm going to have to send the boy home within about 30 seconds of him playing on it. Are these rules unreasonable?: No going up slides, one person per slide at a time, no standing on the bench in the clubhouse, only 2 people max at a time on the tire swing. I'm sure they'll seem unreasonable to them.
There are 3 families that are very close on my street, this one included. They all have kids around the same age (the same age as mine too) and they are always running back and forth. My kids feel a little left out that I don't let them get over involved with them. We're all friends, but we tend to stick to ourselves more. Life seems a lot less chaotic that way.
Erin