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| Fri, 01-07-2005 - 11:33am |
HELLO!!
I am Georgie a stay-at-home mom... My husband lost his job right before Thanksgiving. Luckly he was only off for 3 months and just started a new job this week... 2 HOURS AWAY! Yes.. he is gone like 12 hours a day!
So.. now I understand that I will have to take on everything for the family.(I did most everything before.. bills, cleaning, kids ect.. but now even more!) SO...last night he said " I will be home around 6ish" Well.. I made this really nice dinner.. and waited and waited and waited.... well at 8:30 I finally got a call saying his phone was in his car (he commuted with a friend to work) and he is just now out a traffic and almost home. First I thought.. Ok.. At least he is safe.. then I felt... DID ALL THE PAY PHONES BREAK DOWN, COULDN'T YOU USE YOUR FRIENDS PHONE!? And as you can tell I felt VERY un-appriciated and VERY MAD!! I told him a little about how I felt.. and he said "I am sorry." I think he understand.. but YOU KNOW MEN.. not to sure! I feel overwellmed and taking the brunt of this new job!
ANYONE HAVE A HUG, ADVISE, COMMENTS?!?!
THANKS SO MUCH FOR READING THIS!
Georgie
I am Georgie a stay-at-home mom... My husband lost his job right before Thanksgiving. Luckly he was only off for 3 months and just started a new job this week... 2 HOURS AWAY! Yes.. he is gone like 12 hours a day!
So.. now I understand that I will have to take on everything for the family.(I did most everything before.. bills, cleaning, kids ect.. but now even more!) SO...last night he said " I will be home around 6ish" Well.. I made this really nice dinner.. and waited and waited and waited.... well at 8:30 I finally got a call saying his phone was in his car (he commuted with a friend to work) and he is just now out a traffic and almost home. First I thought.. Ok.. At least he is safe.. then I felt... DID ALL THE PAY PHONES BREAK DOWN, COULDN'T YOU USE YOUR FRIENDS PHONE!? And as you can tell I felt VERY un-appriciated and VERY MAD!! I told him a little about how I felt.. and he said "I am sorry." I think he understand.. but YOU KNOW MEN.. not to sure! I feel overwellmed and taking the brunt of this new job!
ANYONE HAVE A HUG, ADVISE, COMMENTS?!?!
THANKS SO MUCH FOR READING THIS!
Georgie

Hugs to u Georgie! You know men don't understand. They really don't, I think they're missing that gene or something! LOL! How many kids do u have? Have ya'll considered moving? Is it not an option? Having other moms to talk to helps a lot! Welcome and I hope u'll stick around!
Amber
My husband use to work long hours, from like 8 am - 8pm...It was REALLY hard having a newborn and never ever getting a break b/c when he got home from work e would be soo tired and went to bed! And, yes, I made many many dinners that I had to eat by myself thinking my husband would be home at a decent time!
I use to get really mad, until I realized that he is doing everything for our family(financially). He was allowing me to stay home with my baby and not have to work. This has finally sunk in and I'm a lot more understanding, just take one day at a time!
kate
Welcome and (hugs)
Many of us here have hubbies that work longs hours mine being one of them. I usually will not even start dinner until he calls to say he is about 20 minutes away. This way I don't get as much disappointment. If it is going to be a really late night Maggie and I will eat and I tell him to fend for himself. Yes we eat dinner many nights past 7 but we are eating as a family.
So hang around with us it will help your sanity. I just keep telling myself that he works as hard as he does so I can stay at home. And with us he is going to be taking a management position so I fear it is only going to get worse.
Sarah
YOU ARE VERY SWEET! I definatly will be checking in!
I have twin boys that are 4.. and you?!?!
Georgie
It is going to be hard.. but you advise does help me to think of it a diffrent way!
THANK YOU!!
Georgie
It makes me feel better knowing I am not alone.. and there are ways to get through it!
THANKS SO MUCH!
GEORGIE
I think it is great that your husband took a job that requires so much of his time, just so he can support his family.
I do not know you guys, but I would not think that he would have meant to be late and not tell you. I get that way sometimes when my husband does not call when he leaves to go to work. I like to know he is safe after flying. But things happen and he must do his job and then call when he has a chance.
Congrats on him getting a job.