new and feeling stressed

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Registered: 05-08-2004
new and feeling stressed
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Sun, 04-24-2005 - 1:57pm
I usually post on another board, but thought this one might be of more help. My son is 4 months old...I stay at home with him. Lately I'm just feeling like I have another attachment (son)...I love being at home but it is getting to be a lot. I just am almost jelous of my husband...I feel like my world has been turned upside down and his has stayed pretty normal. Our son has some special needs and so we really are unable at this time to leave him with anyone to babysit and therefore I get VERY LITTLE time to myself. He even eats differently and so I'm really the only one who feeds him...so even if I do go I have to be back in 2 hours for his feeding. I just wanted to know if anyone else felt like this. My husband was very helpful and 1st and he still is a bit...but in the wrong ways. We talked about it, I told him that it isn't the housework that I need help with all the time, sometimes it is just that I need help with our son-so I can do the house work, get out...
Thanks for letting me vent
Katie
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Registered: 11-08-2004
Sun, 04-24-2005 - 6:32pm
Welcome Katie! Sorry to hear you're feeling stressed. I remember feeling exactly the same way when my first was born...your world has completely changed and your husband can just go about his usual business. It will get much easier as you and your son get into a groove. Then you will realize how lucky you actually are that you get to be with your son while your husband has to go to work every day : ) Just be sure to make time for yourself, even if it's just taking a bath or going for a walk. A little bit of alone time can do wonders. Also, talk to your husband and let him know how you're feeling...even the greatest husbands sometimes have no clue. It also helped me alot to make other mom friends. The support you get from others who are in the same situation is amazing. Hanging around this board will help you keep your sanity too : )
Wendy
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Registered: 09-20-2003
Sun, 04-24-2005 - 9:39pm

Katie, I think those first months are the hardest! Lindsey was bf and we didn't have any relatives close by so I was pretty stuck, I got by with taking walks don't know if you can do that or not. And the women on the June board kept me sane lol.

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Sun, 04-24-2005 - 10:45pm

Katie, I am so sorry for your feelings and stress! My first born were preemie twins, and one of them seemed to have an incredible case of reflux, dh and I were the only ones who were around to care for them. We would feed Zack and then he would projectile vomit across the room, as we were feeding Andrew, then Zack would need to be refed and by the time his slow process was over I had about an hour and it was time to feed Andrew again. Zack would puke and puke, he would throw up black garbage, I went to Dr after dr after specialist and finally at the age of 3 years we found out he had something called Hirschsprung's disease, basically it meant he could NOT have a bowel movement due to the lack of nerve endings and muscles to compact it to fit out of his bowels. He lived on enemas and laxatives before diagnosed, just to get liquid out. Finally 4 surgeries later and he can go to the toilet, but still has

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Registered: 06-06-2003
Sun, 04-24-2005 - 11:42pm
Those early months sure are the hardest. I promise, things do get better. It is a huge adjustment, for sure. If you are feeling any depression or anxiety with this, please talk to your doctor.

 ~*~ Lauri ~*~

Proud Momma to Austin (9), Brandon (8),
Dylan (5) and Makenna (2½)