New here and need advice

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Registered: 04-29-2014
New here and need advice
Tue, 04-29-2014 - 2:22am
Hi, I'm going to try to keep this as short as possible. (Which didnt end up short at all) Ive got two kids (DD born may 2007, DS born march 2009). I'm a stay at home (homeschooling) mom. Last summer I was hired to watch two brothers (now ages 9 and 10) 40 hours a week, 4 days @ 10 hours each day, by a very nice lady (Kathleen). During the same time, I was also hired to watch another 6 year old boy who was in my daughters kindergarten class two days a week (overlapping with the brothers) for 6 hours a day. I love kids. I am not afraid to take all of them to do cool stuff, not even scared to go grocery shopping with all of them. We all had a blast. Kathleen was so pleased that she even hired me on for after-school care so I've been picking the boys up from school four or five days a week. In December I pulled my kids out of public school (1st grade and preschool) to homeschool them and we all love it so much. I've even started up a Christian Homescholing group in my area and we have a wonderful network of families that get together. I host all of the events through meetup and so we do stuff 2-3 times a week. So this summer, I've got so much planned and am so excited to do more fun field trips and water splash parks and stuff with the other families (more sets of eyes on all the kids). One lady from my church was so impressed with all the stuff we have planned that she wants me to watch her 7 year old twice a week, 8 hours a day. Her parents could watch but the boy would be stuck at home in front of the tv and she would rather him be with me. I'm active, full of energy, and have a minivan big enough to fit all these kids. The only thing is, Tuesdays I would have 6 kids. To me, this is not a big deal. We live in one of those neighborhoods with a ton of kids who play together outdoors (a rarity these days) and half of them are in my house or on my trampoline in the yard anyway. But here's the thing, today Kathleen says she is uncomfortable having me watch her boys on Tuesdays and wants to arrange for her mom to watch them (they'd be sitting playing video games all day) instead. She said that if they wanted to put the boys in "day care" that's what she would've done last summer. Now, I'm a bit sensitive and so her words stung. Day care? Really? 6 kids is day care? Bringing them to the park, beach, aquariums, etc etc is not what day cares do. Whatever, though, she is entitled to her own opinion. The dad keeps the boys in a bubble. Like, they don't even know how to swim because he won't let them near the water unless they're in life vests (9 and 10 year olds) because he doesn't trust swim instructors and they have a pool in their back yard! And today, we did a field trip to the Natural History Museum and I offered to take them cuz I knew theyd love it, but wouldn't let them skip school even though they've only missed a day. But I digress. My question is, should I tell the mom from church that I can't watch her son Tuesdays because it's making Kathleen uncomfortable? (I talked to the dad of the other 6 year old 6 hours twice a week kid and he's fine with whatever, he loves that there will be another boy his sons age). Or should I just go with it and let them take the boys off to grandmas house on Tuesdays? I trust Gods plan for me but I want to make sure I'm doing what's good here. What would you do?