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| Wed, 07-27-2005 - 11:02pm |
Hi I am new here and looking for some support. I am a stay at home mom. I am married and have a four year old very active son. I am just so burned out. I love my son more than anything in the world. It just seems so hard to fill up the days and I feel very tired. My husband works every night until 7:00 and he never wants to do anything with out our child. I never do anything and If I do get a night out it just seems like 2 hours or so is not enough. I am really good mom, I make sure he has activities every day, play dates and I play witiht him. Lately I just find myself staring into space. We have tried for a second child for two years and have that stress as well, but maybe if I can't handle one allday I shouldn't be trying. My husband is a great Dad/provider when he is here, but never takes my son to do anything. Will it get better when my son is older, and maybe they can go on outing so I have a break. I am really only away from my son maybe 2 hours a week. Is this normal or average. I don't know?
Thanks for listening and would love some advice.
jdsmom

Hugs to you. I am not a fan of daycare but maybe a good mothers day out program could give your son some social and learning time and you some time alone. There are some really good preschools out there that have drop off programs that might help.
Four is such a fun age! Isn't he old enough for some sports programs like soccer and t-ball? Maybe sign him up and have Dh be the one who takes him, so your Dh can be more involved.
Do you have any hobbies that you like? Did you have a career before? Maybe working just two days a week in whatever field you were in would help you to feel as if you are "doing" something. I have lots of hobbies and interests that I persue, that does not allow me time to feel like I am idle. I am one of those multi-task persons and doing a few things at once helps me keep busy.
I hope you can find something that works for you and your family. This is a great board to come and blow off steam or have a little fun :)
Welcome to the Board!
Thank you so much for your advice. I think that I will do soccer camp this month and maybe look into drop off daycare in our neighborhood. He is in preschool and that helps alot! It will start up again in September. I think these long summer days have been hard to deal with. I am glad to join this board.
Char
Hello, I am sorry I don't have much advice here, but I wanted to welcome you to the board. I am Olivia, married to Steban for 10 years, SAHM for 1 year to Mercedes (12), Lexus (8) and Aston (8 months). We live in Texas. Being a SAHM is sometimes hard and challenging, but just try to relax and remember to always make time to yourself. Even the children need time to be by themselves. Big ((((HUGS)))) to ya!
Olivia
&nbs
Thanks for your message. I am really sorry to hear about your m/c. I had one last year at this exact same time, however, since then I haven't even been able to get pregnant again.We are going back to our fertility specialist next month. We can't sign up for sport here until 5 years old either. I am going to have a talk with my hubby about taking my son out on outings atleast once a week. Wish me luck!
Char
Andrea (sorry I have not posted in quite a while)