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| Thu, 03-01-2007 - 11:30am |
Hi I am new.
I am a stay at home mom to 3. A 3 year old girl, a 2 year old boy, and an almost 4 month old boy.
Being a stay at home mom is harder than any other job I have ever had! I love the oppurtunity to watch my babies grow up and teach them things. But it can be so thankless. Some days I feel so unappreciated and useless.
In addition to being a stay at home mom, I also babysit a little girl (also 3) five days a week about 9 1/2 hours a day. (Does that mean I am a work at home mom?) My husband and I only have one vehicle and he works so he needs it and even when he is off I cannot leave because I have the other little girl that I watch. I feel like a slave to the house.
I don't know how to fix this so I have more peace. I would love to be able to take the kids to the library for storytime, or to the play park in the mall, or even go grocery shopping. But I can't because of the one car thing and babysitting thing. My window of oppurtunity is so small to leave the house.
I don't know how to take care of me. I have been so devoted to my kids that I am feeling really burnt out. I have even thought of going back to work, except with no college degree and three kids we would have to pay daycare for I wouldn't make any money and it wouldn't be worth it. Plus I do like being home with them! I just don't like having to raise someone else's child but we need the money I make for that (basically I make our vehicle payment every month).
How do I fix this situation, or at least my attitude?
I need mommy friends!
Chisty
I am a stay at home mom to 3. A 3 year old girl, a 2 year old boy, and an almost 4 month old boy.
Being a stay at home mom is harder than any other job I have ever had! I love the oppurtunity to watch my babies grow up and teach them things. But it can be so thankless. Some days I feel so unappreciated and useless.
In addition to being a stay at home mom, I also babysit a little girl (also 3) five days a week about 9 1/2 hours a day. (Does that mean I am a work at home mom?) My husband and I only have one vehicle and he works so he needs it and even when he is off I cannot leave because I have the other little girl that I watch. I feel like a slave to the house.
I don't know how to fix this so I have more peace. I would love to be able to take the kids to the library for storytime, or to the play park in the mall, or even go grocery shopping. But I can't because of the one car thing and babysitting thing. My window of oppurtunity is so small to leave the house.
I don't know how to take care of me. I have been so devoted to my kids that I am feeling really burnt out. I have even thought of going back to work, except with no college degree and three kids we would have to pay daycare for I wouldn't make any money and it wouldn't be worth it. Plus I do like being home with them! I just don't like having to raise someone else's child but we need the money I make for that (basically I make our vehicle payment every month).
How do I fix this situation, or at least my attitude?
I need mommy friends!
Chisty


Hi there!!
Welcome to the board.
I will definetly stay here and chat!
I can't feel all your frustrations. I have two children. TY's 3 and Clays 8 months. I have those days where I feel unappreciated too. I don't care for other children and have a vehicle so I can't imagine what your going through. I think you're doing a great job being patient about the car and do belive eventually everything turns around. I think its cabin fever thats getting to us all. My husband says I seem to go off about this time every year about bills and the house. I honestly don't see how working moms have enough time to cook clean do laundry give baths and get some quality time with the husband. I have a hard enough time doing all those things being a stam. I just realize how fast their growing and before we know it they'll be in school and we'll be reminicing the time they did this or that. Work will always be there but our kids wont. I'm in the process of trying to steal 30 minutes of alone time a day to do whatever. Like workout before 10 pm or take an extra long shower 15 minutes should do, or taking a walk by myself or even to just dress myself up a little bit. It has seemed to help in the bedroom. Whatever you do realize your doing whats best for the kids and your always more needed than you'll ever know! TAke care jess
HI sweetie!
I'm Cathy - STHM to 2 1/2 year old Emily. TTC #2. It doesn't sound like the
Hey girls glad to know that I am not the only one that has gone threw this! You feel like you are stuck at home all day long with no one to talk to but a drooling baby and a mountain of laundry and the dirty dipers ugh. Then we are suppost to be this wonderful happy housewife when dh comes home. It is so hard.
Congratulations on surviving this long you are the women!! Yes you are a work at home mom with just your kids but even more so with an extra child to watch too.
It is so frustrating when you think that you are totally stuck with no life other than for your children and husband. And if you are like me there is either no place you feel comfortable to leave your children or you do not have any relatives to leave them with. I just was able for the first time ever be away from my children for a few days about two weeks ago. So I so understand. And even at that I had to drive them 300 miles away to grandmas house one way. I am not sure it was worth two full days of driving for a few days off LOL.
I have two kids 7 and 4 and here is what I found 3 years ago that has helped me keep my sanity.
1. I found a local MOPS (mothers of preschoolers) group it has really helped me to just meet other women. You can look on there web site and see if there is a group local to you at www.mops.org
And 2. I started working from home. Although I still do not get to leave home much I get to talk on the phone with other women all day and get to help them to work from home too. And I do not have to put my kiddos in day care.
I also homeschool them so I really have a glutton for punishment. But just the interaction with other women over the phone has really helped me. Plus we have been able to pay off most of our dept from me working from home. If you are interested check out my site I would love to help you! There is also a way that you can earn your own new car what ever kind you want! www.blessedathomemom.com
Sorry not meaning to make it an advertisement for what I do but it has really helped me to not feel so trapped and I get to work the days that my husband works and I am off the days he is off. His only day off is on Mondays so it is great to get to work around his schedule or I would never get to see him.
Hang in there it is good for all of us to vent from time to time or else we would explode!
And I know this probably won't help but THANK YOU for all you do to be a good moma and wife! Great job!!
I know it is a thankless job but you do the most important job in the world.
www.blessedathomemom.com
(((Christy)))
Believe me, I understand where you are coming from! We only have one car as well, and my dh works about 30 minutes away... with the price of gas, and one income, I'm stuck at home most days. I homeschool my oldest dd, so my interaction with other moms has been very minimal. It wasn't until this year when I started co-leading my dd's Girl Scout troop, that I even began to really get out of the house and make friends... even though it's only 1 day every other week.
This board has been my source of sanity for about 3 1/2 years now... I've made such wonderful friends here, and these ladies literally help me get through the day. Sometimes I force myself to take the kids for a walk outside too, and try to talk to any neighbors I meet just so I can have adult interaction.
If you have any friends that are also SAHMs, maybe you could invite them over one day a week.
Hang in there, and I hope you stick around and continue to post :o)