new member needs sleep help - 9 mo old
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new member needs sleep help - 9 mo old
| Fri, 09-03-2004 - 6:20pm |
HI I AM A NEW MEMBER NEEDING MAJOR HELP. MY SON IS 9 MONTHS OLD AND DOING WELL, BUT WE HAVE ONE PROBLEM. EVERY TIME I LAY HIM DOWN IN HIS CRIB TO TAKE A NAP OR FOR THE NIGHT HE ROLLS OVER AND CRAWLS AROUND OR PULLS HIMSELF UP TO STANDING. IT HAS BEEN TAKING AT LEAST 30 MINUTES AND ME LAYING HIM DOWN 60 OR MORE TIMES BEFORE HE GOES TO SLEEP. THEN ONCE OR UP TO 4 TIMES (ITS VERY ERRATIC) PER NIGHT HE WAKES UP AND STANDS UP AND CRIES BECAUSE HE CANT GET BACK DOWN. I GO IN GIVE BACK HIS PACIFIER AND LAY HIM DOWN. ITS MAKING ME CRAZY BECAUSE I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO TO STOP THIS STRUGGLE. PLEASE HELP!

Hope they help (((Hugs)))
Nikki
I feel sort of like a mean mom here... I have a 9 1/2 month old son. As long as I know he is clean, feed, and should be fine (not sick) I make my little one cry until he is able to get himself back to sleep. I never got in the habit of holding my baby until he fell asleep. I always put him in the crib while he is still awake, so he is able to get himself to sleep. I run into some issues when he wakes up in the middle of the night.
If you want him to settle himself/herself and make your life easier you will have to suffer through some painful cries/screams. I have had my son cry for about 90 minutes the first night, but by the 3rd night he was able to get himself back to sleep in the middle of the night.
Right now I'm in the process of trying to break the 4:30 feeding. He tends to go to bed anywhere from 7:00 - 8:00, but with out a doubt he will wake up at 4:30 to get a bottle and then go back to sleep for a few more hours. I'm on my 3rd night tonight. This morning at least he only cried about 3 minutes at 4:30 and then cried at 5:30.
I can totally picture what you are describing that your baby is doing, but he is also getting to the stage where he/she understand cause and effect and as long as you continue doing what you are doing - he/she will continue doing the same. I wish you luck because there is nothing more painful then to hear you little one crying/screamming for you.
Sometimes parenting is so hard.
I did the same thing with dd from day 1. The first few nights were tough, but after that, she's been a great sleeper (unless she's teething!!!)
I have always put her to bed while she's awake. If she happens to fall asleep on me before making it to her bed, I gently wake her up as I take her to her room, place her in bed, turn her mobile on and leave the room. Now when she wakes in the night, she can go back to sleep. Some people don't beleive me, but it's what I do!!!
Nikki
I tried the sleep training with my kids and absolutely couldn't stick it out.