New SAHM

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Registered: 07-28-2010
New SAHM
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Wed, 07-28-2010 - 9:51pm
I am new here and I am looking for some advice on being a SAHM. My son is 9 months old soon to be 10 months.
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Registered: 03-25-2005
In reply to: stoopy1006
Thu, 07-29-2010 - 12:59am

Wendy has some really good tips about that SAHM head space but my input is as such. If you and DH are okay with it then no one should have anything to say about it. But you are a mom and you will question every decision you make for the rest of your life.

Oh and according to "Raising Boys" by Steve Buddulph boys do better with their moms the first three years (at least) then in a daycare setting.

I love this article so check it out and welcome to the board!!

http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2007/05/22/AR2007052201554.html

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Registered: 10-31-2006
In reply to: stoopy1006
Thu, 07-29-2010 - 8:25am

Welcome to the board. IMO....they are jealous ;) Seriously, if you are doing what you love and feel that this is what you need to be doing for your family, then what they say and think should definitely roll off your shoulders. Obviously, what they need to do for their family is work outside the home. I found myself looking for other SAHM to be with. They understood and appreciated what I was doing. Until someone has walked a day (or even a few hours, depending on the day, lol) in your shoes, they shouldn't make comments. That said, you shouldn't have to justify your decision to your friends when they make rude comments. Find a moms group through your church or sign your ds up for a mom and me type class through your local rec dept. You'll meet people doing what you do and you'll get a little mom interaction and possibly make some really nice friends.

I hope you stick around the board!!! ((HUGS)) to you.

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Registered: 03-09-2006
In reply to: stoopy1006
Thu, 07-29-2010 - 4:15pm

There's a great book of encouragement out called In Praise of Stay-At-Home Moms. It'd be worth checking out.


Are these friends of yours who ask these ignorant questions childless or women who abandoned their children to hired help as soon as possible? A lot of times the menial job moms are mostly saying that stuff out of jealousy. They've got to convince you that you're making the wrong choice so that they feel better about the choice they feel guilty about. The childless, well, they just honestly don't know. I don't know if they think children just sit in one place all day not requiring anything like a houseplant or what.


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Registered: 07-28-2010
In reply to: stoopy1006
Thu, 07-29-2010 - 7:00pm

Thank you for your advice! We have been doing play dates with other kids around his age which seems to be working very well.