New SAHM... need advice

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Registered: 04-17-2012
New SAHM... need advice
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Tue, 04-17-2012 - 9:45am

Hey ladies! I had my daughter in September and have been staying with her since then.

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Tue, 04-17-2012 - 10:14am
I really struggled with that too. I ended up going back to work when my oldest was 8 months because I couldn't take it. We had no money DH was working 14 hour days and basically sleeping when he was home. We had moved across the state so I knew no one... it was a rough time. I will say it gets better, I don't really find babies interesting until they are at least 6 months once they get to crawling and walking it gets fun. I'd say relax, enjoy the next few months, maybe get some stuff done around the house because once you have your second you'll never sit down. Mom's groups are a good option to get out of the house... but yeah the first few months with your first kid can be pretty hard.
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Tue, 04-17-2012 - 10:56am
We used to spend a lot time at home at that age as well. I would always go out to do things when my husband came home like shopping etc. It gets better and I used to take CJ to the park, bookstore, and other places just to get out and a lot of times I didn't spend any money. I did this a lot during the summer so I didn't have to run the a/c at home but CJ was a bit over 14 months at that point. It does get better. I also did a mom's group for outings and adult time as well.
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Registered: 04-17-2012
Tue, 04-17-2012 - 4:43pm

Thanks for the advice ladies!

Having these forums helps give some stimulation too... makes me feel kinda social. lol.

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Registered: 05-04-2011
Wed, 04-18-2012 - 4:03am

Welcome to the forum!

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Registered: 09-07-2000
Wed, 04-18-2012 - 10:03am
Joining a moms group can be really helpful. A lot of them will do weekly play dates. Since your daughter is so young, she probably won't play, but it will get you two out of the house and among other women with small children. My moms group would set up playgroups based on ages, so you'll be with women with similarly aged children. At this point, it would pretty much be a social gathering for you, and that's fine. As your DD gets older, she'll be able to interact more with the other children. Dues for the group I belonged to was $45 per year. They did a lot of evening activities for adults only, and I would try to attend as many of those as I could while DH was home with the kids (book club, game night, etc.). I felt like it was money well spent.

If you haven't already, I would check out your local library calendar. Our library has story time twice a week, and they are set up for different age groups. It's a great (and free) way to get out of the house and meet other local families.
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Fri, 04-20-2012 - 12:55pm
DD is now 5 year old. When she was about 6 months old I joined a Mom's club near me. DD got to interact with other kids and the cost was $25 a year. Thru the Mom's club I found lots of low cost and free things to do. Stroller walks, library time, craft time at art stores, Mommy coffee time, etc.
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Fri, 04-20-2012 - 3:52pm

Welcome aboard, Trixie!

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Sat, 04-21-2012 - 5:02pm
Hi, No. I moved about 6 hours away because of DH's job. I have DS who is 31/2 too and the kids activities keep me busy. I haven't really tired to find a mom's group or anything else here. We have been here two years and I am still trying to unpack. There are still boxes I just can't get too.
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Registered: 09-07-2000
Mon, 04-23-2012 - 11:07am
LOL! We moved into our house almost 8 years ago, and there are still some things we haven't unpacked yet. I should probably think about getting rid of those things since we haven't missed them.