New sahm with some questions

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Registered: 08-19-2004
New sahm with some questions
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Thu, 11-11-2004 - 10:38pm
When I worked I would use vacation days to be part of the holidays at my daughter's school. I would donate items and help with parties. The same with her girlscouts. Now that I have more time I would like to help even more. But there's few things. One I have to bring my baby with me to school (I know another mom who is always helping and has her baby with her) but I feel uncomfortable. Plus Im afraid of taking another mom's spot or light. I dont want to that at all. I love planning things with kids and usually have great ideas....so I am told. I often feel out of place when I get involved at school. Will this feeling pass? I am not shy and strike up conversations etc but still feel uncomfortable. I live in a very very very small town and everyone knows me and my family.

For those of you involved what could I do?


Thanks Eileen

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Registered: 01-06-2004
Fri, 11-12-2004 - 9:28am
I am almost in the same situation as you.
I love helping out and love helping out with my sosn class and school.
There is just a few problems. I am not asked often because I am a young mom and they think I am not responsible enough to do much, so they tend to ask the older moms. And then there is my son, they do not allow siblings to the school, so it limits me to what I can do.
I try to do they work I can bring home, but they still refuse to let me, they give it to someone else.
I think you should go for helping, they wont mind you trying to help along with another mom, I am sure the more people to help, the better.
Good luck and you are awesome for trying so hard to help out.


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Registered: 03-30-2003
Sun, 11-14-2004 - 6:42pm
I don't know if that uncomfortable feeling goes away or not but I know what you are talking about and I'm going to get past it no matter what!!! lol My oldest is in 1st grade and we were part of a wonderful co-op preschool program that REQUIRED you to participate.

I have 2 younger (a preschool & 2yr old) so I don't take them with me unless it is for a very short amount of time. I'm just always filling out the volunteer forms as they come home. Good luck, Sam

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Registered: 05-23-1999
Sun, 11-14-2004 - 8:37pm
Hi I don't mean to but in.. but I would suggest that you ask you child's teacher what she needs help with and make sure first that you can take the younger sibling with you. At my dd's school you can not take younger siblings and my youngest dd is only in Kindergarten and she's only there 3hrs a day so I have little time to help out in anyone's class. I'm hoping that in first grade I'll be able to participate more in there class stuff. but then I'll only have 2 in grade school 1 in her 3rd year of high school and 1 in her first year of jr. High. I also am very very shy... to the point that people don't think I'm friendly but I really am.. tell the teacher that and maybe she can help you break the Ice with some of the other mom's..

Good Luck,,

Rita Mom 2 Jessi 15, Britt 13, Sarah 10, Emmi 5yrs

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