New & Some advice needed

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Registered: 06-20-2006
New & Some advice needed
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Tue, 10-03-2006 - 11:30am

Hello Everyone,

My DH and I found out last week we were going to have our first little one. I am nervous and excited as all get out. I just finished school in May, and I am planning on going back for a 2nd degree. My DH is far along in his career (he is nine years older).

I just wanted to know how you all manage what your goals and raise a family. Would you ever consider a nanny? I am not sure I want someone I dont know caring for my child.

Thanks for listening.

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Registered: 03-09-2006
Tue, 10-03-2006 - 12:00pm

Well, I know for me and mine personally our goal is to raise our children that we've created, and not farm them out and hire someone else to raise them for us. I figure it's crazy to have children and then pay a stranger so that I can MISS all of the joy and full experience of having them. When we decided to have kids it was a given that one of us was going to be home with them while they're home, and since DH is the salary earner I get to be the one. I wouldn't trade it for anything. Sure my career is on hiatus, honestly with the area we moved to I probably won't go back (not much need for wedding planners in a town of 3,000!) and will go to school when my last is in school himself. There is plenty of time for me to reach my goals, there is only a finite number of years for full time hands on mommying. And I don't have the right to deny them their mother so I can get the ego gratification of a career right now which is all it would be because we make it work on Dans salary alone.

Congratulations on your pregnancy! It's terrifying and mind-blowingly fantastic all at once. Hope to see you posting regularly.

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Registered: 06-20-2006
Tue, 10-03-2006 - 12:33pm

Hi,

Thank you for your post. I feel like I am in a middle of a torando. It wan't completed planned out, we did talk about children and how we wanted them rasied. I guess part of me never thought it would happen, or at least this fast! DH and I dont want to farm the kids out either. DH makes more than enough money to support us. I guess in time I will be able to do my part with giving him some time off.

Have a great day! :- )

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Registered: 03-09-2006
Tue, 10-03-2006 - 12:50pm
Lol, just yesterday Dan said joking to me that after I go back to school and get my degree we can switch rolls and I'll be his "sugar momma"! He said he'll take the teen years being home since I had the more difficult birth to teen years. I laughed and told him give me diapers and feedings over snotty bratty hormone driven teens any day!

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Registered: 07-08-2006
Tue, 10-03-2006 - 3:23pm

Congratulations on your new baby. I remember how I felt when I first found out that I was pregnant. I was so happy, and scared at the same time. I know for me personally, I didnt even have to think about my decision not to hire a nanny or any extra help. I just knew that I would be the one to take care of my baby. I think its your choice what you should do. I have some friends who are working moms, and I have some who are stay at home moms. I just always knew that I would stay at home with my baby once I had my first. I wanted to be here for all of his firsts. I didnt want someone else to watch him do things for the first time. My mom was a stay at home mom with my brothers and I, and I was always so grateful for that, because she was always there and I wanted to be there for my children also.

Jennifer
Mommy to Joseph
07/20/2005

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Registered: 05-09-2004
Tue, 10-03-2006 - 8:36pm

My goal was to be a SAHM, so I'm sure I'm no help. I just want to raise happy kids and be there for all of it....

Good luck and congratulations!!!!!!

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Tue, 10-03-2006 - 11:45pm

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