New stay at home mom...suggestions?
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New stay at home mom...suggestions?
| Mon, 12-06-2004 - 2:24pm |
Just wondering if anybody had any suggestions for getting my 3 yo dd to adjust to staying home now? I just had a ds and I am trying to get my dd in a mothers day out program or something, so she is not sitting home all day with me and 4 month ds. She has been in day care for her whole life until now and she is asking to go to school every morning, she really was in the best day care with the best teacher, and I know she misses her friends and teacher. Any help out there?

everyone tells me that if i look, i will find lots of MOMS at home groups. i think there are mom-focused groups & playdates for young children. find them through churches & county/city parks assoc. (i was surprised to learn that moms joined a playdate group that's referred by the birthing center of the local hospital). i'm surprised there are not more mommy/me, playdate, & Stay-at-home mom clubs organized by neighborhood groups, charities or the chamber of commerce (it would make a suburb more appealing to executives). honestly, i've found 1 SAHM group activity (a mommy&me class at a park only 1 day a week :( (but people on this site swear there are groups like "MOMS" out there- i may have to start my own.) i plan to be very enthusiastic & assertive in setting up playdates & finding other moms who want to meet for lunch.
i remember when i first moved here & didn't know anyone -- friends from back in NYC told me to "join clubs" & "take classes".
the "joining clubs" one was impossible.
we live in a beachfront suburb b/n 2 major cities & there are not "clubs" for people under 70 yrs olds that i could find (only things like the 'bridge club' & 'gardening club' which weren't well-attended & no one was even 65 yrs old!)
& i SEARCHED!
taking classes was useless (either 18 yr olds in 'regular' classes or senior citizens only in the 'continuing ed'/art museum classes-- that's b/c i wasn't willing to go to night classes or on weekends-- that's my family & house renovations/decorating/beach walks time) :)
i finally kind of found activities i liked by digging around in unexpected places.
like a gym that's out of the way but has a lot of daytime gym classes that were packed.
the main thing is that i couldn't go to charity events or 'business card exchanges' that are at night b/c i'm married (& i think those 'business mixers' are meant more for singles).
we are renovating our house so we didn't have time to go to benefits- especially as most charity events were quite pricey.
we're thinking of joining a country club for the tennis & other fun activities but i'm kind of surprised there aren't more informal/less official 'clubs'.
Maybe a few learning cdroms for her to play?
Give her some simple chores to keep her busy. I have mine match socks when doing laundry. Pick up shoes and organize them. I read about both chores being a good idea. It teaches them and takes a small amount off your shoulders.
Make a reasonable schedule. Like when breakfast is, tv time, computer time, play time, coloring time, cooking time, lunch time etc. It will work out. I have a 4yr DS and 1 yr DS who stay at home and a 9 yr old DD at school. My 4yr old use to go to preschool. Then the baby became very deathly ill and I had to pull 4 yr old out and place him with grandparents while in hospital. That was over the spring. He doesnt miss it still and doesnt want to go back. I told him he has to go back after this summer and he's okay with that.I hope I helped. Eileen