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Normal Behavior?
| Thu, 12-01-2005 - 8:28am |
Ok,
I know Dom is still adjusting to the baby, but he seems fine with him. He loves Vincent and always wants to lay with him, he has never acted jealous of him. Anyway, it seems like everytime we put him to bed at night, he is crying and makes himself throw up. Every night this week it has been a fight to put him to sleep. And its not like we just put him in his room, he gets to pick out 2 books, then my husband tells him a story. Now today he gave me a problem about putting his coat on for school, its 20 degrees out, he needs a coat. So, he did put it on and he seemed fine, him and my husband left to go to school. I look out the window and they are still in the driveway, Dom won't get in his car seat. My DH fights him for about 10 minutes to get him in his seat, Dom is screaming crying...Now, I feel awful, does anyone have any advice? I just don't know whats going on with him. Do you think it's school? He has never given me a problem about going to school, he loves it. I need some help, I feel soo bad for him and want to help him.
I know Dom is still adjusting to the baby, but he seems fine with him. He loves Vincent and always wants to lay with him, he has never acted jealous of him. Anyway, it seems like everytime we put him to bed at night, he is crying and makes himself throw up. Every night this week it has been a fight to put him to sleep. And its not like we just put him in his room, he gets to pick out 2 books, then my husband tells him a story. Now today he gave me a problem about putting his coat on for school, its 20 degrees out, he needs a coat. So, he did put it on and he seemed fine, him and my husband left to go to school. I look out the window and they are still in the driveway, Dom won't get in his car seat. My DH fights him for about 10 minutes to get him in his seat, Dom is screaming crying...Now, I feel awful, does anyone have any advice? I just don't know whats going on with him. Do you think it's school? He has never given me a problem about going to school, he loves it. I need some help, I feel soo bad for him and want to help him.

Hugs to little Dom! Kate is his worst behavior start in the morning before school? It could be he is wanting to stay home possibly because you and the baby are at home and he is afraid of what he is missing. He could be feeling jealous that his brother stays home with you.
If it is a problem with school I would try and get to the bottom of it. You just never know....sorry I am not much help.
Good Luck!
Traci
Huge hugs to all of you, Kate! I really do understand what you are going thru. Unfortunately, I have no real "pearls" of wisdom for you. After Molly was born, I stayed home on Maternity leave for 12 weeks. After that, I took the girls to the same daycare provider Katie had been going to since she was 3 mos. old. She always LOVED going to Debbie's. However, once Molly was around, it made life difficult. She, too, loved having her baby sister. She helped me, played with her, etc. But when I left Debbie's, she literally cried ALL DAY! It never got better, no matter what any of us tried. It got so bad, Debbie told me she couldn't watch the girls anymore (and she was really patient, too - for about 5 mos. She felt terrible). So, for the good of my family, I quit working. It was miraculous - Katie turned back into the Katie I loved. We determined she really just needed her extra Mommy time (even tho I had Monday and Friday off every week, that was spent catching up, you know?), now that the baby consumed most of my time. I started taking her to Storytime at the library, playing special "big girl" games with her while Molly napped, or sat close by, baked, etc. I'm sure you are doing things like this with Dom, but it may just take a little more time for him to adjust. This is such a tough time for such a little guy to understand what is happening to his world. No amount of preparation actually prepares them for reality. Lots of extra love, hugs and kisses are needed. If you can, maybe leave Vincent with dh and take Dom with you on a quick trip to the grocery store, letting him help you, but getting mommy time. I don't know what else to suggest, but patience and love. Good luck, let us know how it goes.
Hugs to all of you,
Wendy