Not sure how I feel about this.

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Registered: 01-15-2007
Not sure how I feel about this.
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Tue, 03-13-2007 - 11:18am

My twins are 6 yrs old, 7 in May and in 1st grade. They ride the bus everyday to and from school with their older brother who is 9 yrs old. One of my twins has made a friend who is in 4th grade. My daughter invited her to come watch her in their little play last night at school. They exchange phone numbers so they could call each other. My daughter needed to call her and tell her what time it was. This young lady came, I had no idea who she was. My daughter didn't introduce us. I'm not sure I am comfortable with them exchanging phone numbers. I don't know this young lady. If I did I might feel better about their friendship. I don't mind my kids having older friends but I'd like to know them and if I feel they are decent young people then I will allow them to be friends with them. There have been a few I literally had to kick off our property. One absolutely gave me the creeps and my instincts told me to not allow him alone with my girls which he tried to do a lot. So he was banished and asked to never come back. He was scary to me. I was very scared for my girls when it came to him. He behaved very strangly. So, see why I am careful about who my young children befriend? I just want to meet her and get my idea of what kind of young lady she is, ya know? I trust my instincts a lot, especially when it comes to my children and their friends.

I know it's just phone numbers but they talked for a bit on the phone yesterday. What does a 4th grade have to talk about with a 1st grader? I just found it strange. LOL She might be a perfectly nice young lady who knows how to talk to younger kids and is comfortable with them but I don't know that cause I don't know her! Most young girls this age want nothing to do with younger children.

Now, the twin she has befriended doesn't surprise me. Natalie(the twins I am talking about) has a very outgoing personality and she is very approachable. She attracks friends just with her personality. She's into dance and cheerleading big time. Loves to learn those dances from high school musical and does them in our livingroom. So if this young lady is into dance and stuff I can see them having this in common. I just don't know. I know Natalie sits with her on the bus sometimes, not all the time. She has a best friend who is in her class that lives behind us that she sits with too. So, am I being a little over protective and over reacting a bit? Think I'm being a normal protective mommy? LOL

 

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Registered: 01-31-2006
Tue, 03-13-2007 - 11:39am

I don't think you're being overprotective at all. You just may have to have a rule about phone use stating she has to clear her giving out phone #s and calling other kids with you before hand.


Every family's different, I know, but my girls don't use the phone. I have one girl who will be 9 in may and one that will be 7 in July. I think once that door is opened, problems follow. There will be enough time on the phone when they're in Jr High and High School, lol.

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Registered: 01-15-2007
Tue, 03-13-2007 - 1:35pm

Natalie is my only phone talker. She's one of those people who can talk about anything and never have nothing to say. LOL It doesn't bother me for her to chat with her friends on the phone. Granted all her other friends are 6 or 7 yrs old too. Most of their parents won't let their daughter talk on the phone for very long. There are a few who don't mind, like me. We already plan to give each child their own phone line in their room when they are older. They have seperate phone lines already actually. Cause with two girls the phone will be tied up all the time, so for sanity sakes they will have their own. That will be the only thing seperate they will have.

No cells phone unless they pay for it, no TV in the bedrooms. They will share a car when that times comes. When we bought this house we realized that each bedroom except the master has it's own line for the phone. Kinda neat that it's already set up. Makes it easier on us.