not sure what to do

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not sure what to do
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Sat, 10-30-2004 - 10:03pm
i am the mother of 2 children under 6 yrs of age. i have been married for just over a year, to the father of my children. he is very controling in a gentle way, he doesnt want me working and wants me to raise our children full time and i have for the last 6 years.

after living together for 7 1/2 years his constant remarks have started to make me angry. the most recent one being 'im just waiting for your inattention to allow me to get custody of alicia because jacob will be dead because of your actions'.

a few hours later it was like nothing happened.

he has this dr. jekell/mr. hyde act. im not sure if its steam or his true worries.

yes i had a hard time getting up in the morning that day but i wasnt feeling well and my mother was in the living room with them.

everytime i try to approach a conversation about me going to school or working he brushes me off or tells me no. he doesnt want me working unless it makes above average money, like 40,000/yr. or it is my desired field. then when i try to talk abt going o school, he says talk to me when you have some numbers for me. when i do, he says wait, next year when things calm down.

im going stir crazy here, im not sure how much more i can take. i dont know what to do anymore. please help.

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Registered: 01-06-2004
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Sun, 10-31-2004 - 9:29am
Wow, seems like this is not a situation I would want to be in.
I cannot really tell you what you should do, since I am not living in your home or married to him.
I do think that it is more then I would let happen and I would have said or put my foot down a long time ago.
You have a right to be who you want to be and do what you want to do. I think you should sit down and talk and make him listen to you without brushing you off.
I hope that he listens and you are able to do what you want to do with your life.
Good luck.


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Registered: 03-30-2003
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Sun, 10-31-2004 - 11:57pm
Maybe you and your hubby can go to counseling. Somewhere you can express your feelings and he will listen.

Good luck.

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Registered: 05-08-2004
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Mon, 11-01-2004 - 9:58am

First off I am sorry you are going through this.


I agree with the above post about counseling...although he doesn't sound the type to be receptive to this. But you will never know until you try.


Sorry I can't be of more help. This is a great place to come and vent your feeling though!

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