Ok...be honest mums!

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Registered: 04-17-2012
Ok...be honest mums!
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Tue, 04-17-2012 - 11:37am
i have a 4 year old and a 2.5 month old. iv always worked and gone to college but i do nothing these days. Im 28 and stay home with the kids which i like doing....i wouldnt trust a daycare with my newborn. i have to admit though.. some days i spend almost the whole day watching tv. My mother never used to let me watch tv during the day so i feel like a huge loser. My bf has a successful job and is always in work mode and i know he thinks ...WTF do you do all day? a newborn is nonstop work though! i guess i feel guilty....i clean everyday and make dinner...i do love being stay at home but sometimes get scared iv fallen into a rut. office jobs are even more dull i guess.....
so be honest...i know everyone isnt doing arts and crafts and trips to the museum EVERY day!! hehe

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iVillage Member
Registered: 10-02-2012
Thu, 10-04-2012 - 11:04am

My DH totally gets what I do all day. When I was pg with dd3 I was on full bedrest from week 11. I couldn't do a darn thing for 7 months. He also gets it because I have fibromyalgia and he has seen it at its worst. Somedays I sit in my chair and supervise the kids while playing on the computer. Those are the days my body is really bad. On good days we try to go somewhere even if it is to grandpas. I babysit so there are usually bonuses  around, both my littles are in preschool but on different days and I generally run the errands for the house. Every day I drive dd11to school, then one of the littles, pick up the littles, drive dd11 to tutoring and back or quiz practice, church on Wed. In a house with 3 kids plus bonuses plus a dh plus a zoo of pets there is always something to do. I am not the artsy craftsy lets go to the zoo mom. 

Community Leader
Registered: 05-04-2011
Wed, 10-03-2012 - 1:27am
DH is short hand for dear husband, or whichever other d word you'd like to sub in. Same for ds, dear son, and dd, dear daughter.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-28-2012
Mon, 10-01-2012 - 10:26pm

What is a DH???

I can not believe how hard it is with 2 little kids all day - mine are 2 & 3, (1 yr apart), and they demand so much time and energy that I am not as productive as I used to be..  Because after a day of diapers, cleaning, millions of demands (mom, wipe my butt; mom can I have a drink/lollipop/whatever; mom let's make a tent with these 80 blankets I just pulled out of the closet etc...) it is SO nice to just sit down and Facebook for a second or read or watch tv.  Then I wonder where did the day go and the time for all that stuff I wanted to get done....Maybe tomorrow?  But there never seems to be time.  So don't beat yourself up for watching TV or wanting a nap.  Take care of yourself too!

Again, what is a DH?

Community Leader
Registered: 05-04-2011
Wed, 09-19-2012 - 1:09am

"You'll become a SAHM who never stays home!"

I know that one!

Community Leader
Registered: 05-04-2011
Mon, 09-10-2012 - 4:45pm

I completely understand not wanting to get out of bed or, if I do get out of bed, get off the couch.  I had a really rough time because I had post-partum depression with all three of my boys.  Have you talked to your doctor about it?  It could be PPD for you, as well.  And of course we're always happy to listen and sympathise here, if that helps.

It's definitely easier said that done when it comes to finding time for ourselves!  I have to get up an hour before the boys do so that I can exercise and have a bit of quiet time before they wake up and I have to get going on my day.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-31-2003
Mon, 04-23-2012 - 5:34pm
I can easily watch tv and play online all day long. I try to break it up with setting goals to only be online during morning nap (or like today, afternoon nap too!) And cleaning for an hour. I have a group of mom friends and we try to get together once a week, either somewhere in town or someone's house. I also put T in the stroller and go for a run at least 2-3 days per week.

Manda :)

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Registered: 09-07-2000
Mon, 04-23-2012 - 11:12am
It is pretty easy to fall into a rut. Most days, I don't even want to think about making dinner (I guess that's why I love my crock pot).
Community Leader
Registered: 05-04-2011
Fri, 04-20-2012 - 3:43pm

"but i would just like some credit and a THANKYOU"

Amen!

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-17-2012
Fri, 04-20-2012 - 12:10pm
haha thats so funny! Iv been doing the same, ill let him try and wrangle two children into the store etc, before i know it hes getting all flustered! i really dont have any conplainta. being able to do what i want all day is a dream but i would just like some credit and a THANKYOU. Im home with the children, their safe, and i feel he should appreciate that more!
Community Leader
Registered: 05-04-2011
Wed, 04-18-2012 - 3:51am

I'm lucky if I do arts and crafts or the museum every month, let alone every day.

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