Playdates

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Registered: 11-13-2011
Playdates
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Sun, 01-26-2014 - 3:24pm

I joined a meetup group and they advertised a "Playdate" and gave the date and time (that was all it said). I got there and it turned out they just wanted me to drop my child off there and leave!  Should that be a red flag?  Note, I do sometimes drop her off, but at a licensed day care facility that I  use in emergencies.  She is still in pre-school. Also, I had assumed playdate for toddlers meant the parents would join in. Maybe I am just totally off in making that assumption?

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Registered: 05-04-2011
In reply to: jyladvik
Mon, 01-27-2014 - 11:36pm

That would be a big red flag for me.  All my toddler playdates are with parents, in part because it's easier for both parents, I think, and in part because I need the socialization as much as the kids do.  :)  My six-year-old still hasn't had a parent-free playdate, primarily because he doesn't have any friends in the area.  I would never, ever leave my kids with someone I don't know.

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Registered: 11-13-2011
In reply to: jyladvik
Wed, 01-29-2014 - 5:32pm

That is what I always thought, too. "Playdate" means the parents are there.  I've never heard of playdates where you drop your kid off with a babysitter who is watching a bunch of other kids. I've never heard of that referred to as a "playdate" but they treated me like I was totally crazy to assume that the parents would be there also.

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Registered: 06-02-2007
Mon, 03-10-2014 - 3:37am
I wouldn't leave my toddler with a group of strangers whom I've never met before. That would be a big red flag. I've been in playgroups that arranged play dates where the moms stayed because they were also a social group where the moms could get to know each other. They also planned "moms night out" dates.