Pressure Fom Work to Go Back?
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Pressure Fom Work to Go Back?
| Mon, 01-10-2005 - 9:14am |
Hi Everyone,
I'm new to this group, so allow me to introduce myself :) My name is Sarah and I have a baby girl named Fiona who is almost 9 months old. I'm still on mat. leave but it will be ending very soon, and my old boss wants me to go back to work. My question to everyone here is, did you feel pressure from your employers to go back to work? If so, how do you tell that you don't want to go back (politely) ? I don't want to burn any bridges because we live in a very small town, but my daugter comes first. How do I let them know this? When I origionally left work I told them I was undecided, it depended on if we need the money. And since we are doing just fine without my pay cheque I'm not planning on going back. Any suggestions would help me so much.
I'm so looking forward to being a Stay At Home Mom!! :) and part of the group too!
Sarah
I'm new to this group, so allow me to introduce myself :) My name is Sarah and I have a baby girl named Fiona who is almost 9 months old. I'm still on mat. leave but it will be ending very soon, and my old boss wants me to go back to work. My question to everyone here is, did you feel pressure from your employers to go back to work? If so, how do you tell that you don't want to go back (politely) ? I don't want to burn any bridges because we live in a very small town, but my daugter comes first. How do I let them know this? When I origionally left work I told them I was undecided, it depended on if we need the money. And since we are doing just fine without my pay cheque I'm not planning on going back. Any suggestions would help me so much.
I'm so looking forward to being a Stay At Home Mom!! :) and part of the group too!
Sarah

I wanted to welcome you. My name is Mel. I am 25 years old, a sahm of 4 years to my two boys, Andrew (5) and Dalton (1).
I don't have much advice on this subject, cause I worked retail when I left to stay home and they could care less if I left
Hi Sarah.
Congrats on staying home. I was in the same shoes as you and what I did is called my employer and told her, "Well, after having this baby and being home, I couldn't imagine leaving him/her everyday. So...my husband and I decided that I would stay home. Thank you for asking me back. I appreciate that so much, but right now I'm going to stay home. I hope you understand."
When I said that, she softened up a bit and said I always have a home there and am welcome back anytime. My only advice is not to be apologetic. Many women tend to apologize for things when there's nothing they're actually sorry for, KWIM?
Good luck and don't worry.
Adrienne, SAHM to Aidan
Sarah & baby Fiona
My employer wanted me back while I was still on maternity leave (12 wks)- they were calling and emailing me at home! I did try to come back part-time, but it was too hard to get everything done in 4 hrs/day, so I told them it just wasn't working. They were pretty understanding, considering 2 of my bosses didn't have kids. Everytime I think about getting a part-time job now, I think about how much extra they ask of you, and realize it won't work for me!
Patti w/
Kayleigh, 3
Robbie, 1
Short and to the point politely--no room for argument that could ruffle feathers. . . Maybe try something like "Thank you for your invitation to return to work, I'm grateful for the opportunity and flattered, but my decision if final--I feel very strongly that my place is here with my daughter, and after much though and discussion my husband and I both believe I should stay home with her full time permanently as long as we are possibly able to allow me to do so. If our situation were to change in the future I would hope that your good opinion of my work would stay the same, and if I ever were to return to work outside our home, I would think of you first, as I always valued and enjoyed my work for you."
Send him your letter, with a tray of cookies or something personal as a gift for your ex co-workers with a warm, very kind goodbye note just for them--that tells them that you will miss them terribly, and you hope that they aren't put out by having to find a replacement for you, but you just couldn't bring your heart to leave your baby and come back to work--and pictures of you smiling blissfully with the new baby. That way you've not snubbed anyone, you're sharing your joy at your new situation, and it gracefully (and in a non-hostile way) announces your plans to stay home to all of your co-workers, leaving him little room to criticize it openly without sounding like an baby hating ogre. . . :)
When someone is being sort of rude, your best bet is always to kill them kindness. . . :)
Angela
Hi Sarah (great name :)
Well I had just moved so I did not have the pressure that you are under. But I would say that if you want to stay at home and you can afford to then by all means do it.
Is there anyway you could work pt or do some work from home?
Gl
Sarah