A question about your moms...
Find a Conversation
| Fri, 08-05-2005 - 4:02pm |
I was having a conversation with a friend today about parenting. She has the attitude that sahm are the stero-typical tv watching lazy person. You know, the kind of stuff you see on the sahm vs wohm board lol.
Anyway, she decided that I was "forced" (her words, not mine!) to become a sahm, because my mom was. Therefore, I didnt stand a chance to have a career...I was stuck with being "just a mom" .... as you can tell, the conversation didnt go all that well LOL!!!!
I think she's off her rocker, and I didnt feel the need to justify myself to her, I have known her most of my life, and she of all people knows that I have always wanted to stay home and raise my family.
Anyway, I started thinking, how many of you had a stay a home mom? Did it in anyway influence your decision to stay home? Not wanting a debate or anything, just curious. My mom stayed home until we were in full time school, then she worked part time in a bank until my parents split, and we moved to a different city. By then my sister was in grade 9, and I was in 5th grade. She worked full time then. I always loved having her home in my younger years.
Once I was in full time school, I didnt really care if she was home or not kwim lol!
Did your moms work?
Lesley

I think my Mom stayed home with me until I started Kinder. My Parents divorced when I was in 1st or 2nd grade. I think that she worked full time once I went into school. My Grandmother never worked though while my Mother and siblings were young and then she always took care of us afterschool and during Summers as well. I worked full time with my first and second children and became a SAHM right before my third child was born. I am putting my little one in a program soon as he needs to know that it's OK to be away from Mom and to get some social skills with people other than us so I am going to look for a part time job to have while he's there and my older two are in full time school. My little one will start PreK3 next school year and it's full time so working part time will fit right in. I'm looking forward to being out of the house for a little while though. I've only been home for a little under three years but I miss being out there and love being at home when the kids get out of school at the same time so I figure part time will get me the best of both worlds =} As for Summer break and that our school offers a Summer Camp that they do all kinds of activities in and take lots of field trips and what not so we know they'll have fun with their friends that already go there anyway when that time comes around.
Sherrie =}
Mama to
Kaelyn (5-13-97)
Kyle (12-13-99)
Jacob (11-30-2002)
Lesley,
I agree, Your friend is off her rocker!
My mom was a SAHM. My dad did so well that she never had to work. I really enjoyed her being at home cause she was apart of alot of my school functions and PTA. When my dad past away in 1985 (I was 12) she had to start working once the money he left us disappeared..lol. Her being a SAHM did not influence me what so ever. I worked with my other dd's, it is just now that I have my last child that I want to stay at home. We can definitely use the extra money but I don't want to work full-time until he starts school, even then I just want to work part-time. Well to be honest, I would rather not work at all..lol.
Olivia
&nbs
Forced huh? lol
Well, my early influence in my life was my Granny. She was a very forceful woman who was a feminist almost in the extreme. So I grew up beleiving that I could do anything and was not limited because of my gender.
However, my mother was a working woman, and I was a daycare kid and later my sisters and I latchkey kids starting at around age seven until I was out of the house.
I remember being very small and wishing I had a mom like the mom on The
Hi, I'm new here.. And I think your friend is full of bologna...
My mom worked the whole time I was growing up. Until I was about 7, she worked full time and my older sister and I were either in daycare or in school. Then some stuff happened in my parents lives, we moved to a different town (20 min. away-not much of a move) and my mom started working at a local resturaunt in town. It was in walking distance of our school, so we would walk down there after school and hang out. It's one of those tiny mom & pop places.
In 2nd grade the school started some dumb program my parents didn't agree with and my mom quit her job at the rest. to homeschool us. She also worked cleaning house and doing other peoples laundry. She had no choice-we needed the money to survive.
When we went back to public school (when I was in 5th grade), she went back to work at the resturaunt. When I was in high school, she went back to work at the place she had worked when I was a baby.
She always wanted to be a SAHM, but she didn't have a choice.. She did the best she could and tried as hard as she coulud to be at home w/us as much as possible.
I've always been a nurturing person and always knew that I wanted to be a SAHM. I was also a child development major in college.
See Our Website!
See Our Website!
Me being a sahm later on after Andrew was 2 was because Chris had a job where he was gone so much and I did not want him to be without both his parents for long periods of time.
I must say that I want to be a sahm for a long time so I can be there for both the boys when they need help at school, walk to and from school and after school activities.
I love being home and it would not have mattered if my mom had or not.