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Tue, 09-05-2006 - 10:53pm

Here is my question

My brother(24) had a baby 3 months old now)with this girl(22), He is working and paying for everything. He works 12 hour shift work, and the mother, wants him to wake up with the baby in the middle of the night. he works 6pm to 6 am , and then 6 am to 6 pm, and if he has a day off he is not allowed to sleep in.

What do you think about this?

and she complains about how she has to take care of this baby, and that she doesnt get a day off, (her baby sleeps 8 hours straight) WHAT IS SHE WORRIED ABOUT,
( yes I have a 2 year old I take care of by myself)

So any thoughts of what he should do here, I dont know what to say without being to sistery?

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Registered: 08-21-2006
Tue, 09-05-2006 - 11:28pm
Have you witnessed her putting demands on him or seen that what your saying is true? OR are you going on something based on what someone said? If all is something you've seen or know is fact then I still have to say it's not your concern unless it affects you. Your brother is an adult and if he doesn't want the responsibility every night then he should continue to sleep and tell her to get up, not come home immediately after work, but first things first- he needs to talk to her. If what she's doing affects you then in a calm face to face confrontation talk with her, but she will take offense and she could make things worse by playing a guilt trip on your brother. Sounds as though she abusing your brother emotionally and using the child to benefit her needs. Both you and your brother are better off letting him discuss concerns with her and handling the situation.
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Registered: 03-17-2005
Wed, 09-06-2006 - 8:29am
It truly sounds to me like your brother's gf is on overload.

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Wed, 09-06-2006 - 9:09am
Does your brother want to do this? I know even though my husband worked 12 hours a day and 7 days a week, he still woke up with the baby at least 1 time a night until Andrew slept longer periods of time.
Maybe he should speak to her about it if he is not happy with how things are going.

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Registered: 07-06-2006
Wed, 09-06-2006 - 10:07am

My advice-Stay out of it. After all, you brother is a grown man. Its never a good idea to get in the middle of anyone's relationship or problems.

Chrissy

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