Question (its a toughie !)
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Question (its a toughie !)
| Wed, 06-21-2006 - 1:08pm |
Ok, I have a question for you gals...
If you read my dyk from last night, you'll know my DH has been in a mood recently. (Desiree, Randy must be on the same cycle as Kyle, lol)


Awww, Liz, I'm sorry. Do you have a friend you can swap kids with? Or, you can just have her and her kids over to play? Have all the kids play, and you and the mom just chat? Is there a summer program you can sign your kids up for? Really, there are lots of fun things out there, that maybe you can take advantage of. How about a movie? Our local Marcus theatres offer Movies all summer long at 10 a.m. on Wed. and Thurs. for $2.50 each, which includes popcorn and a soda!! They are showing some pretty good movies!! Over the Hedge is next week, they have Curious George scheduled, Nanny McPhee, Ice Age 2, etc. You could take the kids and still be vegging out a little bit.
Huge hugs to you hon. Being SAHM is not an easy job!!
Wendy
Kate
I agree with Kate.
This is just my HO, but you asked ;)
My instinct here is that you need to sit down and talk to your DH. Clear the air, and let him know what you're going through, as well as how you feel about the silent treatments. To me, that's not really acceptable marrital behavior. I'm more prone to that type of thing than my husband is, but sometimes it takes a good verbal smacking to snap me out of it. He has no right to take his anger or frustration or upset out on you. It's not your fault what's going on at work, or in the bank account. What happens is that we are the easy targets, and so we get the brunt of the moods. My DH is not particularly moody, but I know with me & PMS (like right now), he's the easy one to snap at, just as you are in this situation. So after you greet him with a nice kiss & hug, tell him how much you love him, bring him a Cold One, give him a shoulder rub, and then tell him "Honey, there's something we need to talk about" (or whatever terms of endearment you use in your marriage with one another). Then let him know how you feel about the silent treatment, the moodiness, and him taking things out on you that aren't your fault.
Then, once he's been receptive and apologetic, let him know that you're stressed too, and do what Kate and Tanya suggested: ask him which evening is best for him WITHIN THE NEXT FEW DAYS for you to leave the kids with him for a while, while you go relax. Don't ask him *if* you can do it. He's not your Daddy, and you don't need permission. Always remember the 2 of you are partners, and present it to him that way. No choice here, except which night he's watching HIS OWN KIDS. You're going to go relax, and give it to him like this--you're being very generous by giving him a choice as to which night.
I hope this didn't sound at all harsh!! I didn't mean it to. I just put myself in your place and answered from that perspective. I can relate to some of what you said, because I, too, am on the emotional roller coaster of my husband's job quite often. I am also the Queen of Making Husbands Feel Good ;) They're really very simple creatures, LOL!! It's all about swinging their frame of mind around. They're not so complex like we are. . . And of course, some good sex always does it too.
Hugs to you and good luck, but don't let yourself get treated badly or taken advantage of.
Sofia