A question for other SAHM

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Registered: 05-30-2006
A question for other SAHM
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Wed, 11-08-2006 - 12:35pm
Hi! I am new to this board. Been lurking for about a week now . Anyway, I am a SAHM. I love beening a SAHM. I think that my being home with my kids is one of the best things that I can do for them. However, I have noticed that some of my family and some my friends think that I am stupid for being a SAHM. My youngest child just turned 4yrs old on November the 4th. My plan is to go back to work when she starts kindergarten. I guess my question is, if any of you have had others try to make you feel stupid for choosing to not work and to be a SAHM? My SIL is always asking me, "have you found a job yet? It makes me so mad.

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Wed, 11-08-2006 - 12:47pm

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Wed, 11-08-2006 - 12:56pm

It is no secret, I am self righteous in my SAHMommyhood, so nobody who knows me has ever said anything, Lmbo. I can't really think if people who don't know me have ever said anything trying to make me feel stupid, but if they have it hasn't worked and my response probably made them feel like I thought they were crazy morons. Lol, which I may have if they tried to make me feel stupid for being a SAHM.

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Wed, 11-08-2006 - 1:00pm
I am proud of my decision to be a stay at home mom. Before my husband and I married we had already made that decision. We are self employed(BBQ restaurant). So, it provides us with the income that can allow me to be at home. My children are ages 12, 7, and 4. Each time I had a baby I stayed at home until they were old enough to go to kindergarten. I just don't understand why I am surrounded by so many negative people. I believe its because I am in a small town. Small town, small minds and jealous minds breeds negativity. They are just jealous. Thanks for your reply.
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Wed, 11-08-2006 - 1:07pm
Thanks dansfoxywife. I didn't want to tell you all this, people who try to talk negative about SAHM, I usually talk so ugly to them that leave me alone. It just makes me so mad.
Thanks for replying.
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Registered: 04-17-2006
Wed, 11-08-2006 - 3:03pm
when people find out i'm a sahm to 4 kids, they can't believe it. I had one man actually tell me, why, how can you afford it. He actually wanted to know our financial info. Things get hard at times for us, like now before xmas. Deep down, I think those people are jealous that they are not home for their kids. mine range from 15yr to 18mo. So people with teens complement us on how well behaved ours is,while they complain about theirs. When someone asks you if you found a job say, well i'm still working at a great job, but when something else comes along, i'll let you know.... There is nothing better than being the one to teach our little ones what they need in life.
it works for me
Kim

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Registered: 07-01-2005
Fri, 11-10-2006 - 4:18pm
I have been a SAHM for almost 8 years. Our current youngest is in Kindergarten. I considered going back to work next year when she was in school all day. Well the new baby will be here right before Christmas so that adds another 6 years for me. The only ones who ask about me working is my kids. I had a brief stint a few years ago with work & they always ask about it lol.
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Fri, 11-10-2006 - 4:34pm

I know that my kids depend on me being home and available for them. They get a clean house, hot meals, clean clothes. They have clean clothes, beds, as well as a clean yard, clean pool( yes I am the pool lady). I do everything that I'm suppose to do. But, there are those who try to make me feel bad about not having an income of my own and being dependent on someone else. You know, I have come to realize that, people who want certain things and can't get them , don't want you to have them. I am so glad that I found this board. You all will listen and not be judgemental. I live in a small town. Most of my friends and family are not supportive and don't have my best interest at heart. That's why I am glad to have found this board. Thank you for your reply.

Boss

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Fri, 11-10-2006 - 4:40pm
Well I don't think my girls really necessarily want me to go to work. They are only 7 & 5. It is more of them remembering that I did work for a short time. They enjoy knowing that they can do classes & such because mom is there to take them.
I do think people can get jealous & petty. You have to ignore them & do what is best for your family. My husband sometimes will comment on me working. I then remind him what he would have to pay to have someone do what I do. It shuts him right up.
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Fri, 11-10-2006 - 4:55pm

Your right! even though we have our own business, once I get the girls off to school, I have time to help out at our restaurant. My 12 and 7 year old are in school , and my 4 year old is in daycare. So that leaves me a little bit of time to do my work at home and have some time for myself. My husband doesn't complain too much because he depends on me being here as well. Sometimes it gets hard, because I never realized that people could be so petty and jealous. Its funny, but my husband told my there would me people around me who would have a problem with it. He was right! Anyway, p$$$ on them. They need to get a life, because I love mine.

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Fri, 11-10-2006 - 5:53pm
Ummmm, no, cause I know its not stupid.
Don't let peoples opinion ruin things for you and how you feel about it.
Just ignore and move on.

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