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| Sun, 07-11-2004 - 6:04pm |
I do not have kids yet..Though we are TTC and have been trying since March 2004. Anyway..I plan to be SAHM when I have a baby......I am currently staying home right now..Just for the heck of it. Anyway...I have been offered this government job in a half way house...a place for druggies and alcholics..and a place for people who suffer from depression and things like that.....anyway.....I could really use to extra money right now.....Though DH makes plenty..But it would be a nice to have extra for myself. Anyway I will continue to try to get pregnant...But I am not sure if I should take the job. Would it be okay to take the job, knowing that I may not be there that long, though it could take a long time to conceive? Or should I just pass the job up...and patiently wait to get pregnant?? The place is a great place to work....I can only work 40 hrs a week there...but they work 12 hr shifts. Plus its not like I have to do anything hard. Ya just have to keep an eye on the residents and do paperwork...and thats it. They make the druggies and alcoholics do the cleaning.... and I don't have to really interact with them. Just talk to them occassionally when they talk to me...and make sure they follow the rules. Please give me advice. DH isnt too much help..he just tells me its up to me.
Christy

I would suggest that you take the job if it's something that you would enjoy (not just for the money) and not create a huge amount of stress in your life that could be counterproductive to trying to get pregnant. BEST scenario, if you get pregnant quickly, you apologize, give them however many months notice you feel comfortable with so they can find someone else, and then you go home--it may be slightly inconvenient for them, but most employers understand that the people they hire have lives outside of work. You could work for part of your pregnancy and use the extra cash to buy all those cute little baby things that cost so darn much. LESS wonderful scenario, it takes you a longer time and more effort than you would like to become pregnant, but you have something to help you to disassociate from that part of your life for a while each day--you will need to, I promise. Also, the extra money will still be very very helpful, because the farther you go into that strange blue drape covered land of fertility treatment, the more you'll discover how little your insurance company is truly fond of you. WORST scenario, if you are unable to become pregnant in the end, you have something that you have been working at that is a comforting and familiar routine, to help you remember that you had a life before you started trying to become pregnant, you are still a valid and useful person, and no matter where this journey takes you--adoption, surrogacy, etc--, you will still be able to function and have a good life.
Just my two cents worth, I hope it helps----
Angela
~~mommy to Wil, Wes, and Wade :)
I'm Melissa. I have 2 children (1 and 4). I became a sahm after my daughter was born and have been taking classes here and there whenever possible to become an R.N. since then. I worked full time up until a few days before I had my daughter. I think I had a much easier pregnancy while working. It kept me busy and I didn't sit around the house and pick at snacks all day lol. With my son, however, I was already home with my daughter and I was absolutely enormous! Maybe working had nothing to do with it but I felt more aches and pains earlier on in my second pregnancy. Maybe that was because I could sit and think about it more. I say take the job. You don't know when you'll get pregnant and the cash is always nice. If you plan on being a stay at home mom you may want to get in a nice job and make some friends before hand. I loved being pregnant at work, lots of attention and people to enjoy it with you. Good luck on your decision.
Melissa
Hi Christy,
I am going to cautiously post my advice. But this is just my opinion. Please don't be offended. I truly mean the best of intentions.
The place your talking about working, sounds very challenging. These sound like people that need someone's whole heart and mind. Alcoholics and people with drug addictions are usually people who need a lot of compassion and someone with staying power. I am sure that just interacting with them when needed will be a challenge since you would have to word anything you would say to them very carefully. My understanding of depression, especially people living in a half way house would be people that are easily influenced just by a slight twist of words. These people sound like they are very emotionally vulnerable. I imagine for employers of these type of places it is probably not easy to keep employees, and I am sure turnover is probably pretty high. I am not sure I would want someone who could not make a full commitment to this type of job.
Do you think maybe you are looking for something that will completely take your mind off of the emotional draining of trying to conceive? Maybe what you are looking for is something to just take your mind off of thinking about ttc all the time, if that is what is happening. I can't pretend I know what your are going through, but I am a compassionate person and can empathize with you. I am sure there are jobs out there for someone who is looking , but that would not affect the people and employers in a emotional or harmful way.
I wish the best for you and hope you and your DH achieve your hearts desire!!! Children are such a blessing, and It would be so great to get to hear of your success story!!!
Respectfully
Traci
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I say, TAKE THE JOB!.
Christy
Go from there and decide what you want to do.
good luck on becoming pregnant.