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| Fri, 01-14-2005 - 12:02pm |
Hi,
I just need to vent a little....My husband got a new job at the end of July, and I was SOO excited,I finally thought we were moving forward and we could buy a house, etc... He is on 100% commmission, but works for a nationwide company that is very successful, so he would almost be guaranteed a check every month, as long as he was working. Well, now 6 months into the job, i absolutely HATE it. I was really positive about everything, but last month he was about $40,000 in loans(hes an acct. exec for a national bank) closing to do a million in loans for the month. Which would mean for us $2,000 extra, which would be about $5,000 for the month, which is A LOT for us. After that happened, I'm soo frustrated and it's causing a lot of tension between my Dh and I. So, I told myself I'm not going to be negative about this job anymore, it doesn't do me any good..Then I just called my DH and asked him when he got his expense check, he gets $600 a month for company expenses, which we use to pay the bills, fax line for his business, car payment, gas( he travels a lot), and any other bills from his company. He said he will be getting his check late because they didn't process it in time. He paid $25 to overnight his expenses( from our personal checking acct.) and they didnt have time to process it, so we won't be getting it until the 25th?? And to add to it being late, they're now cutting it to $400 instead of $600!! Its so hard to be positive when these changes keep happening.
My husband absolutely LOVES his job, he said its the perfect fit, but I don't see how it's working out for us. its stressing me out soo bad. And I don't care about having a lot of money, etc...but we have only $125 left in our checking account for 2 weeks until he gets paid!! And I have to go to the grocery store...so frustrating. And we were planning ou trying for our second child and now it's like there's NO way we can buy a house with this money hes making! I know I'm young, i'm only 24 and we've only been married for 3 years. We basically started from scratch, our son was unexpected and we got married and started our life! I just want to move forward, have another child and buy a house and I feel like this will not happen for another year or so...sometimes, I think I should go to work so we can have all those things. Thanks so much for listening, I feel better getting everything our, any advice or thoughtful words? :)
kate
I just need to vent a little....My husband got a new job at the end of July, and I was SOO excited,I finally thought we were moving forward and we could buy a house, etc... He is on 100% commmission, but works for a nationwide company that is very successful, so he would almost be guaranteed a check every month, as long as he was working. Well, now 6 months into the job, i absolutely HATE it. I was really positive about everything, but last month he was about $40,000 in loans(hes an acct. exec for a national bank) closing to do a million in loans for the month. Which would mean for us $2,000 extra, which would be about $5,000 for the month, which is A LOT for us. After that happened, I'm soo frustrated and it's causing a lot of tension between my Dh and I. So, I told myself I'm not going to be negative about this job anymore, it doesn't do me any good..Then I just called my DH and asked him when he got his expense check, he gets $600 a month for company expenses, which we use to pay the bills, fax line for his business, car payment, gas( he travels a lot), and any other bills from his company. He said he will be getting his check late because they didn't process it in time. He paid $25 to overnight his expenses( from our personal checking acct.) and they didnt have time to process it, so we won't be getting it until the 25th?? And to add to it being late, they're now cutting it to $400 instead of $600!! Its so hard to be positive when these changes keep happening.
My husband absolutely LOVES his job, he said its the perfect fit, but I don't see how it's working out for us. its stressing me out soo bad. And I don't care about having a lot of money, etc...but we have only $125 left in our checking account for 2 weeks until he gets paid!! And I have to go to the grocery store...so frustrating. And we were planning ou trying for our second child and now it's like there's NO way we can buy a house with this money hes making! I know I'm young, i'm only 24 and we've only been married for 3 years. We basically started from scratch, our son was unexpected and we got married and started our life! I just want to move forward, have another child and buy a house and I feel like this will not happen for another year or so...sometimes, I think I should go to work so we can have all those things. Thanks so much for listening, I feel better getting everything our, any advice or thoughtful words? :)
kate

My husband has had many jobs like this, and it is very stressful.
One week he would make lots of money and then the next he would not make any or much at all. It was hard to pay bills and plan things when his paycheck was like that.
I know it is hard to deal with, but I think your husband is trying hard to pay the bills and support you guys.
Have you thought about getting a job to help out, or to have some extra money? Just a part time job or here and there?
Good luck to you both.
sweetie don't stress over it! If there's anything I've learned, it's that things will always work out. You're only 24, and you two have the rest of your lives ahead of you... trust me :o)
Men need to enjoy their work... my husband is in the same boat... I never know how much his paycheck will be, and we have been through some really rough times financially the past 10 years, but we've made it. With a lot of budgeting & prayer, we were FINALLY able to buy a house last May (and trust me... if WE can, anyone can :o) We've had to make it on MUCH less than $125 for 2 weeks many times (with 2 kids!)
Hang in there, budget wisely, pray, but most of all lovingly support your husband with a smile, and you will be rewarded in the long run!
(((hugs)))
Kate,
I like what the other post said...."Things always work out".
Hi Kate,
Oh yes the stress over dh's work. I feel you there. At least he loves what he does. My dh does not and I feel guilt because I am the one that pushed him to take his job, and now he has to work his butt off so I can stay home.
Sarah
Hugs to you. I know there have been times when I have HATED going to the grocery store because of low funds.
Most of us go through these kinds of things, so hang in there. I say smile at your husband and calmely discuss it with him. Then come vent like heck at the board!
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