sad sahm

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Registered: 06-17-2003
sad sahm
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Thu, 04-15-2004 - 12:13pm
My name is Shellie and I have been a sahm for about 4 years now. I now have a 11 month old besides my soon to be 4 year old. The reason that I'm unhappy is because I don't want to be a sahm. I mean somedays I am so glad I can be home with my kids and other days I wish I had a job where I could be the one going off to work and coming home at 5. It sometimes just gets to be a loooong day. Does anyone else feel this way? What do any of you do with your kids to keep busy?
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Registered: 01-06-2004
In reply to: sdurick25
Thu, 04-15-2004 - 1:38pm

Yes, sometimes I feel that way, especially when things are hectic and not going in the right direction.
I then look at my children, ages 5 yo

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Registered: 02-11-2004
In reply to: sdurick25
Thu, 04-15-2004 - 3:47pm
when I get to feeling down and wondering if this is really what I want, I remember they are my children. When you think of having children, before you actually have them, do you think of having someone else doing the work? It is so nice to know, you are in complete control of what goes on in their life. Im quickly reminded when my oldest comes home from kindergarten, telling me things that just blow my mind. I am not in complete

controll of what he is exposed to now, and I am so thankful that at least I had the important formative years. and then I look at my younger children, and think of how thankful I am that I have a few more years before I have to give that up. I believe it all starts in the home. The morals you teach your children when they are little, and I say you, will follow through with them for a lifetime. Isnt it nice to know that we are in charge of what is instilled in them when it is so important? Children grow up in a blink of an eye. Someday we will be looking back and remembering when. It is our job to raise our children right. And we will be rewarded for it. Hang in there, its not an easy job, but a very rewarding one. Be proud to be a stay at home mom. It is not easy and most people will admit to that. God didnt pick just anybody to be those childrens mother. He picked you. How he must think of you. He is trusting you with his little children. And you are doing wonderful. So put your chin high, and know you are doing this for the children. They will remember for a lifetime what you have sacrifised for them.

God bless your family

Violet
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Registered: 06-17-2003
In reply to: sdurick25
Fri, 04-16-2004 - 12:01pm
Thank you that is the nicest thing I have ever heard anyone say about staying home with children. I think that is what I needed to hear.
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Registered: 04-16-2004
In reply to: sdurick25
Fri, 04-16-2004 - 12:52pm
Hi there, I'm new to the iVillage boards. I was just surfing through and saw the post and thought I'd send a mental hug your way! I know how it feels at times, to wish you had an "outside" job. The housework can be depressing, the kids can make you feel as if you're going to lose your noodle, and sometimes you just don't know how you feel about yourself, other than it isn't a good feeling. I hear ya, and I've been there. We have six here, 4 in school, 2 at home. All the time I hear people saying how much easier it is with the older ones in school...yet, I have laundry, dishes, diapers, bottles, cooking...the list goes on, and I don't see how "easy" everyone thinks it is! All of this to do, even if the little one won't stop crying, won't let me put him down, it's enough to make a person want to flag down the next available McD's job just to get out of the house for 2 minutes!!! Not only do you have to remember the importance of being there for your children, add to the thought that if you had to go to work -- you will probably STILL have to do the household jobs on top of your "outside" job....would you be able to cope with that too? I worked a 9-5 for years, and I must say my current SAHM job is much more demanding, but also much more fulfilling. I don't think I could handle TWO full time jobs. The one I have right now is so much more important, so let's all pat ourselves on the back for the good job we do everyday and know that there are others out there with the same frustrations...keeping in mind how precious those moments with your children are!
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Registered: 03-24-2004
In reply to: sdurick25
Sun, 04-18-2004 - 1:52pm
I completely agree with all the other responses on here. However, for you own sanity have you consider starting a hobby, or finding a playgroup, or start a work at home buisness? These things can help pass the time and help you meet some people in the same position you are. Good Luck to you! Just remember you are doing the best thing for your children.


Danna Johnston

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Registered: 04-09-2004
In reply to: sdurick25
Mon, 04-19-2004 - 3:25am
I have been in your spot, and some days find my self there again. I know it is so hard to be a SAHM -- sometimes I felt just like a glorified slave. My heart goes out to you. Hang in there. I knwo there are things you can do at home to help get you through and get you interacting with big people again. There are all sorts of online degrees you can do online. One thing the ladies in my neighborhood did is form a babysitting co-op. That way when get to our limit, we call a friend and let them take our kids. I have literally called my neighbor and said, I need a massage can you watch the kids... It has worked great for us. Often you can get involved with the PTO -- especially if yoru 4 year old will be starting school. I can't believe how much this has helped me. If you ahve a moment, check out my website. YOu will find resources and stuff for moms in yoru very posistion (look at my profile to get the URL). Best of luck and lots of hugs!!!