SAHM’s TTC/Expecting Thread?

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SAHM’s TTC/Expecting Thread?
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Tue, 01-11-2005 - 9:26pm


It seems like there are at least a few of us on this board who have mentioned that they are either ttc or expecting. Thought we might do a ttc/expecting roll call and then maybe we can check-in with each other from time to time … for fun and for support … and for getting to know each other.

Here’s my brain-dump on this topic!

DH and I have decided to ttc #3 … we have two children, dd 5 and ds 2 … we are over 35 so we have to consider that ttc might take longer than we’d like it to or that it might not happen at all. I charted with the previous pregnancies. It took over a year to get pg the first time … which is why I learned to chart in the first place. #2 happened after only the second cycle (we were shocked. I don‘t think it had occurred to us that we could succeed so quickly after our first experience). Also, I have had two c-sections and so in addition to there being medical concerns about the impact of our age on ttc and pg … c-section scars can also have a negative impact. So I guess I have as much suspense going into ttc this time as I did the first time around! Crazy.

Dh is traveling this month, so that may interfere. I haven’t formally begun to chart, so I can’t quite predict. I need to check out the charting board; I am a bit rusty.

I have other concerns this time around that I didn’t have before. We never questioned whether one or two kids would be more than we could handle. But I must admit, we have thought more carefully about the additional responsibility that would come with a third … both financial and logistical. On those hairy evenings when DH is working late and everyone is melting down … you have the thought that you might be insane to consider adding one more. And since the kids are not in school yet (DD starts kindergarten next fall), we are pretty clueless about how hectic it will potentially be for us in five years with a gaggle of grade-schoolers. LOL just picturing it. But in spite of some concerns (these choices are never cut and dry), we think we might regret it if we don’t at least open the door and see what happens. :)

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Thu, 01-13-2005 - 10:19am

Hi Karyn, when are you due? You're ahead of me by about 4 weeks... I'm due June 18, but will have a C-section at around 38 weeks. I'm actually praying that I go into labor at 37 weeks and can deliver naturally this time. Anyway, I wanted to share with you a tip in case you have future pregnancies... I had some cramping and lots of pressure during my first trimester, and naturally was concerned about miscarriage. I grabbed my daughter's bean bag, and laid on the couch with my feet elevated on the bean bag (well above my heart), and after a while, all symptoms went away. I've had to do that several times, but each time it does help. I read your profile BTW, and

 

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Thu, 01-13-2005 - 11:52am

We have been ttc#2 since April.

Sarah

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Thu, 01-13-2005 - 1:37pm
Hi everyone!
Well, tomorrow is my 26th day, when I usually start my period....so, we'll see what happens, even though I'm about 99.5% sure I'm not pregnant! My Dh and I didn't really "try" this month, we just were very careless, didn't use protection, especially on the days I ovulated. So, if I'm not I won't be disappointed at all, but if I am, I know it was meant to be. My Dh and I don't really want to "try", we're hoping it happens...I'm only 24, but I want our kids closer in age and I want to get having kids over with while i'm young! Does anyone know the odds of conceiving on accident? Thanks and goodluck to everyone pregnant and TTC :)
kate

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Thu, 01-13-2005 - 8:37pm
Well, don't quote me but I think that I have read that the chances of conceiving in any given cycle at the *height* of your fertility (early/mid twenties?) is only 25%. I don't recall if that stat is qualified by whether your effort is random ... or if it's still only 25% even if you have intercourse *during* the window of ovulation. One in four. Timing is everything. That 25% chance per cycle decreases as you get older ... to the point where it really makes sense to chart (and predict ovulation) in order to do everything that you can to maximize your odds.
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Fri, 01-14-2005 - 9:38am

Ok.....I'm trying to convince dh that he DOES in fact want a third, so until then, I'm going to totally live vicariously through you guys.

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Sat, 01-15-2005 - 3:25pm

Per Traci's suggestion, there is now a version of this thread in the member to member folder ... since this one here falls into the archives very quickly when we don't post for a while.

Hope you are all doing well. We are sick today and dh is traveling; quiet afternoon.

Good luck to everyone ttc this month. I am at Cd12 and dh doesn't return until Cd15. But I have long cycles ... so we might still have a chance this month.




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Sun, 01-16-2005 - 5:58pm
Hey this was a great idea! We have 2 girls, 3 and 18mos. and just started ttc #3 this month! I don't think it happened yet, but will keep everyone informed! Good luck to you all!!!
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