Should I wait?

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Registered: 11-05-2003
Should I wait?
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Tue, 03-02-2004 - 6:50pm
Hi! I am 20 yrs old....and April will be my DH and I 1 yr anniversary. We have actually be together 3 yrs....and lived together 1 yr before we got married. Now..I feel a strong urge to get pregnant. I REALLY want a baby. I want one so bad..that I almost cry when I see another baby. I get excited just thinking about having a baby. Plus I have 5 cousins that are due to have a baby this year...and it just kills me..I am SO jealous. I plan to be a SAHM....because I couldn't see leaving my child. I decided to go off the pill in December...and My DH and I decided not to try..but if it happens it happens. Some of my family keeps telling me that I need to wait....and others tell me that I should go ahead and have a baby while I am young. I can see the pros and cons about both... But what I want to know is if you think I should wait? And I would really appreciate any tips..and info that you think I should know.

Thanks in Advance,

Christy

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Registered: 01-10-2004
Wed, 03-03-2004 - 12:08pm
Hey Christy,If you feel ready to have a baby-GO FOR IT!!I'm sure many people would have told me not to,and yet it turned out well for me!My Hubby and I had only known each other for a few months,and we got married.He wanted a baby,and I didn't really think I was ready,but didn't tell him because he wanted one sooo bad!I got pregnant before we had even been married a year.He was thrilled!!We live in an apartment,and have bad credit because of his divorce.So we can't buy a house.I resent people saying you have to have a house to have a baby!!Well, anyway,when our son was born,I just fell in love with him!!!I am a very happy stay at home mommy to him,and my Hubby and I will celabrate our 2 year anniversary,this April!Oh ,by the way,I am 22!Anyway my point is,lots of people probably thought I wasn't ready,but it turned out that I was!NOBODY BUT YOU AND YOUR HUBBY CAN MAKE THAT CHOICE!!!I love our little son sooo much,and there is nothing I wouldn't do for him!Being a mommy is wonderful!Don't let anyone tell you if you are ready-only you know for sure!!
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Registered: 11-05-2003
Wed, 03-03-2004 - 7:36pm
I just wanted to Thank Everyone who gave me their opinions. It feels good to get some positive opinions every now and then....though I do appreciate the negative ones too.. :)

Ya'll are still welcome to keep posting...

Thanks Again

Christy

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Registered: 01-09-2004
Thu, 03-04-2004 - 2:50pm

Since you have all those family members that are preggers.

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Rhonda

 

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Registered: 11-05-2003
Thu, 03-04-2004 - 10:36pm
I have gotten that many times....to take care of someone elses kids.....and I have. I have 2 cousins who are 5yrs old.....and I took care of them from the day they were born till they were 3 yrs old. Yeah there parents were there most of the time....but I did just about EVERYTHING. I made the bottles.....I fed them..I changed diapers...I played with them..I bathed them..and I put them to sleep. I acutally stayed a WHOLE summer with one of them....and I was 15 at that time.... It was hard work.....but I enjoyed every mintute of it..... What really made it worth it..was just when they would look up at me as I fed them...or did whatever for them....and you could tell in their eyes they knew you were taking care of them. I remember once..telling one of my aunts..I don't think that I could EVER love any child even mine as much as I did Tori.

Anyway the thing about my cousins that are pregnant now......they will NOT let anyone watch their kids. The ONLY people that gets to watch them is their grandma. Even the 2 cousins with twins NEVER let anyone keep them. So that is outta the question. Believe me I have tried with their prior children.

Christy

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Registered: 02-02-2004
Fri, 03-05-2004 - 8:57pm
Christy - you should follow your heart. As long as you and your dh agree and are willing to devote yourselves to a child, I say go for it. There is no perfect time to have a child, there is no perfect age to become a parent. I am a stay at home mom of 4, ages 15, 10, 4 and 1, I also homeschool them. I had my first child at 24 and my last at 38. My age did not determine how I felt or what kind of a mom I am. Parenting is not something you can prepare yourself for like taking a driver's test. Its a learn as you go process. Of course I am more relaxed with my fourth than I was with my first, but I do not believe that has anything to do with my age, its simply a matter of experience. In my opinion, your life does not end when you have a child, it is just beginning.

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