Sleepy Mom blues...

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Registered: 09-24-2009
Sleepy Mom blues...
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Tue, 12-06-2011 - 10:31am

What a day already... Last night was the second night in a row that I didn't get nearly enough sleep and I've been a monster. Our 7 month old has woken up 3 or more times two nights in a row. Last night I went to sleep after 10:30 and was up at 12, 2, 4 and then at 6:30 to feed her again but by then it was time to get the kids ready for school. I guess because it was 2 nights in a row I lost it. I was angrily making the kids lunches and not being patient with my son who doesn't understand the word "hurry" whatsoever. I got home to the baby crying and my DH didn't hear her at all- even though the baby monitor was next to him. I flipped out on him, "It must be nice to get so much sleep every night NO MATTER WHAT..... must be nice to work since it allows you to sleep in everyday!! I WISH I HAD YOUR LIFE" Haha... yeah, a monster. I literally cried because I was so frustrated and unhappy with my situation. My DH doesn't have to be at work until 10a and gets home around 5pm usually. It's extremely frustrating to be that tired and know that he gets to sleep every single night just because he "works". He actually told me yesterday "You can go back to sleep after Nathan goes to school and rest all day" HA! I have 2 other kids and a household to run. I am going from 6:30am to 8:30pm. I don't even have time to be active on this board!

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Registered: 10-05-2003
Tue, 12-20-2011 - 9:02am

I can relate! :( Connor is 19m and does not STTN. Our ped said the same thing awhile ago, but Connor still breastfeeds and he nurses 2-3 times during the night. Luckily, he will nurse right back to sleep so it doesn't affect me too much. But it's still not a full 8 hours of solid sleep!! One day it will happen, I keep telling myself that mantra -- this too shall pass!

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Registered: 05-04-2011
Sat, 12-17-2011 - 2:12am
"Dealing with him sometimes almost feels like having a third child."

Just 'sometimes' and 'almost'?

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Registered: 09-07-2000
Fri, 12-09-2011 - 2:32pm
Oh my gosh, I hear you. This has been a really crappy week for me as far as getting enough sleep goes. I think Lucy is having night terrors. Ian used to have them at about this age. At least it's fairly short and it's not too bad to get her calmed down and back to sleep.

Might DD be going through a growth spurt? My two were always horrible sleepers at night (but they'd sleep all day) and want to eat non stop when they were going through a growth spurt. They seemed to last about a week or two before things started to get back to normal. Other than that, I'm not sure what to suggest to get her to sleep through the night. We co-slept, so STTN wasn't ever much of an issue. I don't know if you're opposed to CIO (or maybe more like "fuss it out"), but maybe let her fuss for about 5 minutes and see if she can put herself back to sleep? Does she sleep with a paci?

With the hubby, I've found that I need to be specific about what I expect of him. I can't just tell him to get the kids ready. I have to give detailed, step-by-step instructions complete with a deadline (for real) in order for things to be done. Dealing with him sometimes almost feels like having a third child. If he has a checklist and a time when the things need to be done, then it's fine. It might sound micromanagey (I thought it did too when it was first suggested to me), but if he's agreeable to it, it might help.
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Registered: 10-15-2001
Wed, 12-07-2011 - 1:25pm
((((HUGS)))) you are right, nothing is worse than not getting enough sleep. And yes, DH sleeping while I'm exhausted and trying to do it all was definitely an I'm going to blow up kind of situation. With his schedule would it be possible for him to take a morning or 2 and let you sleep in? It isn't like he's working half the night and needs to sleep in. As for the baby waking up... the 7-8 month range is where I started CIO. I bottle fed 3 of them so if I was still doing bottles I gradually made them smaller and that alone helped drop the night time waking. Also the binkie clip was a lifesaver with the last 2, I wish I'd know about them for the others. Nothing harsh, just wait 10 min before going to get her and see if she'll go back to sleep on her own. CIO doesn't work with all kids, DS#2 would scream for hours and make himself sick but I think with most kids it works pretty quickly. Other thought was she might be going through a growth spurt right now... just a thought if she's suddenly eating a lot more. GL and I hope you can get some sleep.
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Registered: 05-04-2011
Tue, 12-06-2011 - 9:52pm

Ugh!