Sooooooo mad at Dh
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Sooooooo mad at Dh
| Tue, 12-06-2005 - 8:34am |
Ok,
He has been great lately, but I swear today I'm ready to kill him. He went in to wake Dom up for school and he tells me Dom is tooo tired for school today. Ok, what? I understand Dom is tired, but he has school, and hes going. So, I go in wake him up, and hes fine. I tell him he has school today and he has to get ready. Well, He always argues with me, but finally brushes his teeth and goes to the bathrooom. So, I go to dress him and he says he wants my husband to. So, my husband tells Dom you're too tired for school, your not going. Im like WHAT THE HECK???? You don't tell a 3 year old that, plus if he keeps letting him skip Dom will NEVER want to go to school. So, my dh and I start to argue and Dom is crying, it's just a mess. I tell Dom if he stays home from school, he has to go back to bed for a little bit and cannot watch tv. MY dh thinks this is awful treatment and dresses im and brings him to my parents house! I swear I could really hurt him right now maybe because of the lack of sleep? But, I have done so good with bringing Dom to school and he really does like it, and now since he brings Dom, Dominic misses school at least once a week. I feel like it's hopeless now and since Dh lets Dom skip, he will never want to go back. :( I could just cry.
He has been great lately, but I swear today I'm ready to kill him. He went in to wake Dom up for school and he tells me Dom is tooo tired for school today. Ok, what? I understand Dom is tired, but he has school, and hes going. So, I go in wake him up, and hes fine. I tell him he has school today and he has to get ready. Well, He always argues with me, but finally brushes his teeth and goes to the bathrooom. So, I go to dress him and he says he wants my husband to. So, my husband tells Dom you're too tired for school, your not going. Im like WHAT THE HECK???? You don't tell a 3 year old that, plus if he keeps letting him skip Dom will NEVER want to go to school. So, my dh and I start to argue and Dom is crying, it's just a mess. I tell Dom if he stays home from school, he has to go back to bed for a little bit and cannot watch tv. MY dh thinks this is awful treatment and dresses im and brings him to my parents house! I swear I could really hurt him right now maybe because of the lack of sleep? But, I have done so good with bringing Dom to school and he really does like it, and now since he brings Dom, Dominic misses school at least once a week. I feel like it's hopeless now and since Dh lets Dom skip, he will never want to go back. :( I could just cry.

Awww, Kate, I don't blame you for being angry. You and dh definitely need to sit down and talk things out. Even tho it is only preschool, it certainly sets the tone for school in the future. He is going to think this can happen in "real" school, and it can't. I agree with you, telling Dom that he can't watch tv and has to stay in bed. I do that with my girls. It is a true test of how "sick" they really are. I tell them, if they are sick, they must stay in their rooms, all day. And, once the other sister gets home, it is not playtime. Usually, they go to school - LOL! Anyhow, maybe your dh is having a tough time accepting that Dom is growing up. He wants to let him be little, and "baby" him a bit? Now that Vincent is in the picture, it is even more obvious that he is not so little anymore. I'm just grasping at straws here, but I think you and dh need to have a nice, quiet, heart to heart talk. Soon. I wish you luck, sweetie. Let us know what happens.
Hugs,
Wendy
I did have a question though, you said that he ended up bringing him to your parents home?? If so, then why couldnt he just go to school? Would have been better at school and more fun
I would have been p/o at dh too if he'd done that!
Hi Kate,
If DH had done that I would have had to have pulled out a can of "whoop-butt" and told him the way it works! LOL! That's just wrong - especially when you had Dom up and getting going - he not only underminded you but he also is teaching Dom that you can skip school whenever you want, and obviously that's not a good lesson.
You and DH need to sit down and have a VERY serious conversation about this and you need to let him know that his behavior is NOT going to cut it!
Good luck honey!
Hugs,
K
Kate..you probably know I am not a fan of preschool but as a former preschool teacher your Dh needs to know he is not making it easier on Dom by allowing him to skip school but making it much harder. I had kids in my class that would miss just one day and it would take them a half a day just to get back into the routine. They were also usually grouchier if they missed since they don't get why they can't just stay home again. It is best if you pick a routine to stick with it! JMO
Traci