Stay at home, is it really better?
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Stay at home, is it really better?
| Wed, 08-09-2006 - 3:17pm |
I just want to know if I am the only stay at home mom that feels staying home is a small prison, in which your jailer is your 3 year old, and the warden, your husband??? I love my children, and I love my husband, but sometimes I think my life ended when I had kids and decided, by this I mean was forced, to stay home. I hate to think I'm the only one who feels this way!

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I am sorry that you feel that way!
Well to answer your first question.
"Stay at home, is it really better?"
Well that depends. It is better for my family because my children have a Mom who enjoys her daily life. It is my own personal belief that a stay at home parent promotes a good solid family foundation. I want to be my children's first influence, not a babysitter. I love our laid back no rush lifestyle and would not have it any other way.
I hope I don't sound harsh but who is forcing you to stay at home? I think I read it right that you said that. I apologize if I am wrong. Seriously though I know no one can force me to do something I don't want to do. You sound like all your power has been taken away equating your home with a prison and your jailer as your three year old, then the warden for a husband. Can your husband stay at home for a while and let you have the career?
Good luck to you!
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I know staying home is REALLY hard - I only have 2 kids, so I imagine with 4, it is even harder. However, since you say you just moved, why not take the opportunity to get to know the area. If you need a sitter, check with a local church for a babysitter list. Our church has one, and it even specifies if the sitter has been Red Cross certified! Even if you are not a member of the church, you may get a good reference there. Also, check out your local library - not only for their events, but for other events around town. If there is a local paper, subscribe to that - you will find LOTS of fun things to do in your new neighborhood, and likely meet lots of new families with connections to the best sitters and great places to go!! I'm sure being a SAHM wouldn't feel so "prison-like" if you had some options. I'm sure when you were home where your family and friends were, it wasn't quite so bad. So now is the chance to get out and meet new people with the same interests as you! Children!
Hugs to you and good luck!! Let us know how you are. Feel free to pop in and vent as much as you want. We're always here for you....
Wendy
SAHM to Katie (9 1/2) and Molly (7)
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