Stepping down as CL

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Registered: 03-14-2005
Stepping down as CL
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Tue, 04-10-2007 - 12:38am
I just spent the last hour crying and talking to Kyle... this may seem like a bunch of gibberish, or it may make perfect sense. At any rate, I hope to at least try to explain.
Over a year ago we bought a dog... a purebred Labrador we named Madison. I was not ready for a dog, but gave in anyway. She sat in my lap all the way home, and the kids adored her. As Madison grew, so did the problems with her... she would dig her way out and run crazy all over the neighborhood. Every time though without fail, she would come home and scratch at the front door to be let in. She shed terribly all over the house, she ate Kleenex out of the trash and threw up on the carpet, she dug up and ate my rose bush, she was just an all out pain in the butt.
This morning my mom went back home, and took Madison with her to live with my aunt. I cried when she left and kept asking myself "are we doing the right thing?" over and over again. As much as she irritates me, I love her so much and I hurt so bad right now. Whenever I was down, *she* was the one who comforted me... I woke up this morning to find her just sitting there looking at me. I want her back. I don't know if I can have her back now though. I'm crying so hard.
Kyle asked me, "what is God teaching you through all of this?". I told him "mercy and grace". Madison is very much like my oldest daughter, Natalie. Both of them do things that irritate me beyond belief, but many times it's just because that's just who they are. Yet, both of them can be so loving. I failed Madison... I criticized her, I yelled at her, I condemned her, and I sent her away. I fail my daughter daily too... I criticize her for not doing things the right way, I yell, I don't spend enough time with her, and it's because of stupid little things that I let irritate me. I have failed to show mercy and grace, and I have lost a pet that I deeply love because of it. I don't want to make another mistake and lose my daughter by driving her away emotionally.
Natalie tells me frequently "you care more about your friends on the internet than you do about me". I seem to remember saying something very similar to my mom a few years back. She and I had a very rocky relationship for a few years because I always came second to her friends. I've been doing the exact same thing to Natalie. I've struggled for months now as to what I should do... it seems like something has constantly come up to keep me from the board. Now I realize why. I need to focus on my children. I love all of you, but they need to come first and foremost in my life. I'm sure all of you understand.
I will continue to post on the board, but I will not be very active... at least for a while until I can get my priorities straightened out. Please continue to think of me. I appreciate and love all of you so much.

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Edited 4/10/2007 12:53 am ET by cl-momof3littlepunkins

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Registered: 03-25-2005
Tue, 04-10-2007 - 12:48am
OMG HUGS much HUGS!!



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Tue, 04-10-2007 - 7:41am

***HUGS***


Good Luck Desiree!

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Tue, 04-10-2007 - 8:06am

Ya know Desiree, that is o.k., sweetie.

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Tue, 04-10-2007 - 8:23am

Many, many ((HUGS))

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Registered: 03-17-2005
Tue, 04-10-2007 - 8:55am
I totally understand why you are stepping down as cl.

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Tue, 04-10-2007 - 9:12am

Hugs!!!!!!

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Tue, 04-10-2007 - 9:19am

I completely understand Desiree...

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Tue, 04-10-2007 - 9:23am
I know you will be greatly missed here but I just had to say, What a wonderful Mom to make that decision.
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Tue, 04-10-2007 - 9:41am

Good for you for making such a decision, hon! A lot of mom's don't really, truly listen to their children or their instincts and it's great that you are. We hate to lose you as CL, but I know you'll still check in with updates and visit when you can. How could you not, we're all so absolutely fabulous? *wink*


Take care of yourself and hugs to you!

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Tue, 04-10-2007 - 10:13am

((Hugs)) Desiree!


I'm pretty sure everyone on this board understands that your family comes first! You are doing what is best for both you and your kids and that's great. I can't wait to see post from you and hope that everything works out the way it should!


God Bless,


Angie

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