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| Tue, 05-16-2006 - 4:50pm |
If you didn't get my message before, I am a stay at home mom with two daughters (3 and 4 1/2). They are at my mother-in-laws house for a month up in the mountains. I trust her wholeheartedly, so that's not an issue. I also have a son who is almost 5 months old. There's the quick background info...here's the update on how it's going.
Well, it started out alright. I missed them, cried, but started to relax. My son was an angel (was being the operative word) for about a week and a half. Now I have a real big headache! The problem is, when my daughters were here he didn't demand too much attention from me (though I gave him plenty of it). Now that he's used to not having the girls here, and mommy now has more free time...he wants ALL of my attention! Relax indeed, more like stress more than usual. This was also supposed to be time for my husband and I to bond again...but he's working all the time, I'm stuck at home because we only have one car, and he needs it for work. I miss giving my girls attention and being around them...so I feel as if I'm going to just LOSE it!
Well, it started out alright. I missed them, cried, but started to relax. My son was an angel (was being the operative word) for about a week and a half. Now I have a real big headache! The problem is, when my daughters were here he didn't demand too much attention from me (though I gave him plenty of it). Now that he's used to not having the girls here, and mommy now has more free time...he wants ALL of my attention! Relax indeed, more like stress more than usual. This was also supposed to be time for my husband and I to bond again...but he's working all the time, I'm stuck at home because we only have one car, and he needs it for work. I miss giving my girls attention and being around them...so I feel as if I'm going to just LOSE it!

Ahhh, yes. I hear of this syndrome all the time. My sis's kids pull this one on her.
The one time I'm actually happy to have twins who (between arguments) can play together sometimes.
Ideas: let him have a friend over, takes them somewhere stimulating (park, chuck e chz, museum, etc...) and even sometimes put them to work. Play with them plenty, but mom has work to do also. Allow the kids to help... give them dusting chores, dishes, help with meal prep, etc...
If you live in a warm climate, get some sun while allowing them to play in the kid pool, or even just with a hose, etc..
Good luck!
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have you tried putting him in a Snuggli? That way he will still be with you, but you can get your work done. Also my kids always loved their baby swings. Maybe you could put him in a swing in the bathroom with you and take a nice hot bath. I also used to put the kids in their car carriers, "swing" them to sleep, and carry them around the house with me.
hang in there sweetie!
Sorry it hasn't turned out like you were expecting! I am wondering if he is needing a sister fix? Maybe let him "talk" on the phone with them. I can bet it might be a little confusing to him as to why the girls are gone and he is trying to find his place in this new system. Where before he had his sisters to somewhat entertain him he is probably feeling a little awkward. If it were me I would do some kind of vigorous outdoor activities with him like walking or playing at the park. Exhaust the little bugger and pray he takes a great nap so you can finally have some free time!!!
Good luck!
Traci
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