Stressed about this & I shouldn't be

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Stressed about this & I shouldn't be
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Fri, 11-03-2006 - 3:02pm

My dad's birthday is Monday. We have to go over to my parents' on Sunday afternoon and eat a huge Greek spread to celebrate. Sounds fun & yummy, right?

NOT!!

I always stress when I go hang with my whole family. It's because of my mom, and my Evil SIL (brother's wife). I don't care so much that my SIL is nothing but hateful to me and her flirting with my husband (in front of my brother) is just over-the-top. Whatever. But she bugs me most because of her connection to my mom, who loves her to death! You'd think my mom would be more loyal to her own daughter (me), right?

NOT!!

My mom is the one who stresses me most. Not as much as she used to, but she still stresses me. You never know what kind of mood she'll be in, but 85% of the time, it is not an enjoyable experience dealing with her. She tells my kids stuff like: "I don't know what's wrong with your mom . She doesn't care about me. She doesn't bring you over to see me. She must not love me." She runs me down to them. And about 75% of the time now, she's cool with Michael; but if it's that 25% that she's not, then that probably bothers me the most. Criticize me, OK. But don't criticize the people I love. I'll be able to tell if she's going to be cool with Michael or not. If she's speaking Greek in front of him, she's going to be a witch. That's my predictor gauge. How rude to speak a foreign language to him/around him when he can't understand it.

And then who knows the things she'll say to me. I'm sure she's pi$$y with me already, because we're eating Thanksgiving dinner with my ILs, and not her, and that makes her very jealous. We go through this every year.

I know I shouldn't be stressed, but I'm really not looking forward to this on Sunday. If I could tranquilize my mom and my SIL, it would be no problem, because I love my dad and my siblings. Maybe I should ask Michael to slip some valium into their drinks.

Wish me luck!!

Sofia




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Fri, 11-03-2006 - 3:28pm

I was just going to say that you should get Michael to bring some drugs home from the hosptial and slip it to them, but you beat me to it lol!


I dont have any advice other than, dont go, or put on a happy face, eat and get out of there lol. Yikes Sofia, sounds like a fun time lol.

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Fri, 11-03-2006 - 3:36pm

Ugh! Sofia, your Mom sounds exactly like my Mom!!!!
Just try and relax and dont let your Mom or SIL get to you! I know its easier said than done, my sister is such a phony people pleaser but then she talks crap about people behind their backs, it drives me up a wall! I also hate family functions because of this. Also my Mom doesnt have a car so we always have to drive out to her and its a half hour ride to her house and back, also my Mom is soo cheap she rents a room from a friend instead of getting herself a small apartment, weird huh?
Just try and relax and dont let any of them get to you! You deserve to have a good time. If anyone tries and ruffle your feathers, just try and laugh it off. Some people at family functions just try and get a rise out of others. If you seem cheery and stressfree, it will probably bug your sil and hopefully she will back off!

How about baking up a nice batch of yummy laxative brownies for your SIL (evil right?)

Hth!!
Moni :)

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Fri, 11-03-2006 - 3:44pm

Laxative brownies!! ROFLMBO!! That's better than the Valium-spiked ice tea!!

Sofia




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Fri, 11-03-2006 - 3:50pm
Hehehehe, thanks Sofia!
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Fri, 11-03-2006 - 6:01pm

HUGS Sophia!

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Fri, 11-03-2006 - 8:34pm
Sofia, the whole thing sounds very stressful.

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Sat, 11-04-2006 - 9:18am
I wanted to send you hugs. How sad you have to deal with that all the time. You dont deserve it at all, and neither does your family.
Good luck.

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Sun, 11-05-2006 - 9:44am

Hope all goes well today. And I'm wishing you could send me over some leftovers, lol.

Erin

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Sun, 11-05-2006 - 2:58pm
What?!?!

 

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Sun, 11-05-2006 - 11:26pm

Oh yeah, my tasteless SIL has been flirting with my DH for *years*!! Fortunately, my DH blows her off. Last year he even told her she needed to get some help. But that didn't stop her from flirting. She's One Sick Puppy. The one I feel sorry for is my brother!!

Thanks for all your sympathies, everyone. It was not exactly a walk in the park today. My SIL doesn't even bother me that much, she's just so pathetic. It's my mom who drives me nuts.

Sofia




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