Stressed about this & I shouldn't be
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| Fri, 11-03-2006 - 3:02pm |
My dad's birthday is Monday. We have to go over to my parents' on Sunday afternoon and eat a huge Greek spread to celebrate. Sounds fun & yummy, right?
NOT!!
I always stress when I go hang with my whole family. It's because of my mom, and my Evil SIL (brother's wife). I don't care so much that my SIL is nothing but hateful to me and her flirting with my husband (in front of my brother) is just over-the-top. Whatever. But she bugs me most because of her connection to my mom, who loves her to death! You'd think my mom would be more loyal to her own daughter (me), right?
NOT!!
My mom is the one who stresses me most. Not as much as she used to, but she still stresses me. You never know what kind of mood she'll be in, but 85% of the time, it is not an enjoyable experience dealing with her. She tells my kids stuff like: "I don't know what's wrong with your mom . She doesn't care about me. She doesn't bring you over to see me. She must not love me." She runs me down to them. And about 75% of the time now, she's cool with Michael; but if it's that 25% that she's not, then that probably bothers me the most. Criticize me, OK. But don't criticize the people I love. I'll be able to tell if she's going to be cool with Michael or not. If she's speaking Greek in front of him, she's going to be a witch. That's my predictor gauge. How rude to speak a foreign language to him/around him when he can't understand it.
And then who knows the things she'll say to me. I'm sure she's pi$$y with me already, because we're eating Thanksgiving dinner with my ILs, and not her, and that makes her very jealous. We go through this every year.
I know I shouldn't be stressed, but I'm really not looking forward to this on Sunday. If I could tranquilize my mom and my SIL, it would be no problem, because I love my dad and my siblings. Maybe I should ask Michael to slip some valium into their drinks.
Wish me luck!!
Sofia


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Have you sat down and talked to your brother about how she acts towards Micheal?
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