* stupid ex husband!!!!! *

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Registered: 04-04-2006
* stupid ex husband!!!!! *
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Wed, 05-10-2006 - 8:32pm
Ok heres a vent re: a s.o.b. ex husband...... feel free to exit now, and otherwise please excuse the typos, they tend to be numerous when i am angry.
first i called him earlier today to see about a summer schedule. he gets them 2 weeks.... he says he will have to get back to me on that. ok.. no prob i see him fri and he will have dates then , he says he should have something worked out. he then informes me that he cant have the girls the next visit because his mother is having surgery which is where he lives.. ok i can understand that. no problem.. but now he calls and says that i need to drop them off at his mothers... we have a meeting place half way between us, his inlaws house. but suddenly he has a "late doctors appt" so no one will be @ the inlaws to get the kids. ok . i drive a 85 suburban. gas is $3.09 a gallon. HELLO! i let him know rather politley that i am not happy. he points out the 2 times he drove the kids to my house when i was having problems with my car and goes so far as to say that its not his fault what i drive. i told him not to even go there with that conversation. ( he is behind almost 4k... no that couldnt buy a newer vehicle...) no counting how many times that i have driven them to his mothers house whren he was seperated from his wife, and sleeping with his girlfriend.. amd taking MY kids there! i will be there but i am not happy about it. what am i supposed to do? no bring them? then he will go to court saying i denied hinm visitation. GGGGGGGGGGRRRRRRRRRRRRRR!!!!!!!!!
Needless to say my SO isnt happy but he is tired and cranky from being up & working his ass off so we aggreed not to continue the conversation because we already know eachothers opinion on this topic... AAAAAAAAAAAAAAARRRRRRGGGGGGGGGG!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I am so mad! Does anyone else deal with htis stuff????
* so angry i could cry but it would worry the girls*
Shannon
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Registered: 10-13-2002
Wed, 05-10-2006 - 9:55pm

Hi Shannon.....first (((Hugs))) to you..........


Your pretty new here...so maybe you did not know my x is aka Satan!


So yea...I have delt with what you are saying and more........


First I am curious about that 4k in back childsupport.....do y'all have a Child Support enforcement unit where you live?

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Registered: 12-01-2005
Thu, 05-11-2006 - 10:14am
Shannon, I could go on for days about the cra* I deal with with my X!! We are suppose to meet halfway also, and I get calls saying I need to come all the way to pick up the kids because he is leaving early to see his whatever (Claims she is not a girlfriend) out of state, and can't bring them back to me??? He knows I'm sc*ewed because I want my kids back. He also doesn't let me know when he takes my kids out of state,and turns off his phone so I can't reach them. He also won't meet his financial obligations to me or them. (read my DYK post in the soaps and bon bons folder) Hugs I can so understand your frustration!!

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Thu, 05-11-2006 - 11:54am
Rhonda & Rose... THANK YOU!!!!!
Both helped a lot.... ofcourse while typing that last night i burnt the steaks on the grill, but at least it was only on one side. As for the 4K... im am supposedly receiving his tax return of 3500.00 or so... but im not holding my breath he has until june 8 th to get it to me or the child support arrest warrent will be reinvoked. i ( stupidly i wonder) agreed to have it quashed since i am supposed to get the tax return. now the judge gave him a dedline... so we will see. THanks you for all your kind words... and no i dont talk bad about him infront of the kids even when he tried to shut me in a truck door with them in the truck and called me numerous names incl. c**t.... i used to be relly good about keeping track but i have been lax... i will have to start again. and yes we have a 1/2 way mark in the court papers, but he says he has a doc appt, and wont make it there in time so i need to take them further so someone will be there... i think i need to remind him i saved his butt by quashing the warrant... i didnt have to btw... but i hate being mean you know... i am better than lying to CPS (child protetive services), and the Sheriffs office like he did... ahhhhhhh sigh.... and yes Tony (SO) is all about "whats good for the goose is good for the gander" i quote... re CPS, and driving etc..... so its hard sometimes. he hates how unfair this has been to me and he was there the time i lost my kids for 1 entire week because i hadnt moved, so he has seen the outcome of some of the worst of it... but i thank god i have Tony , and he has us... boy i ramble dont i ;)
shannon
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Registered: 10-13-2002
Thu, 05-11-2006 - 12:11pm

You GO! Shannon....you can do this.............don't worry! ...Your kids will be ok......And I Thank God for Tony too!!!!!


Remember there is an old saying that says something like..."What does not kill us, will make us stronger".....


Everything happens for a reason.....and everything you go through and learn, strengthens you, your children...and who knows...someone that comes into your life later on...going through the same things your are now.....won't you be the perfect "friend" for them?


So keep your "chin up" and keep going forward..no matter the resistance you encounter...the past is just that, the Past.....and it is in your future where yours and your babies

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Registered: 04-04-2006
Thu, 05-11-2006 - 1:46pm
Sniffle ... thanks rhonda... honestly tears in my eyes!
~Shannon