Surgery with small kids
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Surgery with small kids
| Fri, 08-17-2007 - 10:10pm |
I have a 3 month old and a 6 year old, and am a stay at home mom. I have had two previous back surgeries (I have a birth defect which causes my disks to herniate, which is then painful, they have gone in and put titanium plates, rods and skrews) I now have a pinched sciatic nerve from herniated disks in my back. This is causing extreame pain! My Dr put me on Oxicotin theis week, which frankly scares me and makes it hard to function at a level I need to take care of my kids. However, I can barely walk with out the strong med. It is terribly painful even on the drugs. The Dr also wants to do another surgery. When you have back surgery you can't bend, lift, move around much at all for awhile. My husband works full time as a resteraunt manager, and I don't have any family or friends that can take weeks off work to come and help me take care of the kids so I could recover from the surgery. We don't have the money to pay anyone to help that much either. I can't live in this extreame pain or on this much pain medicine for very long, and I am doing damage to my back the longer I put off surgery. But how can I have surgery with no one to help with the kids?
Has anyone else had to go through this kind of thing? Any ideas, advice or thoughts? I appreciate anything! Thanks liztk
Has anyone else had to go through this kind of thing? Any ideas, advice or thoughts? I appreciate anything! Thanks liztk

I wish I could help...I'd be there in a heart beat to help you....You live in Cali??? Are you parents nearby or can either one help...in-laws? I don't know if they have it where you live but here in Cali they have the family Medical leave act that your DH could get to be able to stay home to help you?
Good luck.
Jenn
If your state has the paid family medical leave act, you parents and in-laws can take it as well to care for a family member. Here oin Cali you get the same amount of pay as disability/unemployment for up to 6 weeks so if you family was willing to do a week each they would just get a little less than their reg. pay check...I so hope it works out....Have youtried doing a search on line for the formula to see if there is anywhere else you can get it cheaper? I usually google the name of thngs and you never know...
Prayers to you and your family.
Jenn
There are sometimes scholarships and grants for child care through the city or state treasurer. Also for the family leave act here in Ohio - I dont know about Penn. We have to use up all our sick days and vacation days first plus there is a week of no money in between those days before the disability pay comes in. So be prepared for that week or longer so you dont stretch your finances too thin.
You can look into your mortgage company and see what they offer in assistance so you have a little extra money for the formula and sitter help.
At least come April you can deduct the formula on your taxes. I hope that helps you look up in this hard time.
Yeah deffinatley not worth your childs well being to bid on e-bay...I know I wouldn't...Can the ped help at all with say samples or anything? Dosen't hurt to ask....I know when I didn't have allot of money and needed a medicine soemtimes my Dr. would give the dose I needed in samples....Or writing to the formula company and seeing of you can get a discount or coupons? I'm sure they have a dot com.....
Jenn
Hi I was just reading about your problem, have you looked in to WIC?
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