Time for second baby?

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Registered: 11-05-2004
Time for second baby?
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Fri, 11-05-2004 - 10:53pm
HI!

I'm a stay at home mom with a 26 month old son. My husband and I are trying to decide whether or not to have a second baby. I'm 24, and don't want to wait TOO long to have more children, but my son and I are having soo much fun together right now, I just think having a baby right now would take that time away from him. Is there ever a right time to have a baby when you have other children or do you just have to go for it?

Katie :)

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Registered: 05-08-2004
Sat, 11-06-2004 - 8:13am

There are some people that say having children close together is best...and some that say having children far apart in age is best. I think moms find a way to make it work either way. We are good at that sort of thing! LOL


My children are 4 years apart, and I am quite glad it happened that way. When my little one came along my older son was so confident in his "place"

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Registered: 01-06-2004
Sun, 11-07-2004 - 7:39pm
Well, I am 24 years old, I have a 5 year old and a 11 month old.
I was a young mom and not only waited to have more because I was young, but because I felt that having them farther apart would be easier.
I think it depends on your life and how you may handle them close together or farther apart.
I personally am glad I waited the 4 years. It was easy for me to take care of the baby and not worry so much about doing it all for my 5 year old. He was able to do a lot of things on his own which left me more time to the baby.
Good luck on your choice and no matter what, as long as you want to have the baby then the time does not matter as much :)


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Registered: 11-05-2004
Sun, 11-07-2004 - 11:56pm
Hi Mel,

Thank-you for you input about having another child. It's a difficult decision to make, and I like hearing what other people have to say. Nice meeting you,

Katie.

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Mon, 11-08-2004 - 2:53am
i just wanted to give a little of my experience to maybe help you decide. my first was 22 months when i conceived my second. it made her 2 1/2 when he was born. that was the exact age i wanted my kids apart. looking back i realize it is very hard to be pregnant when you have a 2 year old! being a stay at home mom it was hard doing all the things she needed done while being so big and pregnant. it was exhausting. another baby will DEFINITELY take away time from your older child. i was naive enough to think 2 children weren't much more work than 1 child. i quickly found out it is twice as much work. i think if you are enjoying just you and your son right now, and you are not worried about having children closer together...then you just might want to wait another 6 months/1 year before thinking about it again. i'm not saying its easy during any age to have another baby, but just something to think about. but if you would like them closer in age, and you have another one, you'll be glad you did. at least you have time on your side and young enough to think about it more. i was almost 27 when my second was born. good luck on your decision ! :)

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Mon, 11-08-2004 - 11:38am
I am 26 years old and my kids are 7 ,6 and 4. Both me and dh hubby come from families of three kids who are spread out ( my youngest bro is 15yo) and we wanted our kids to be close in age. Well we planned on 16 mths apart and since the 2nd was in such a hurry we got 12mths and 8 days. Then we really wanted a boy so 2yrs was the ideal spacing.

I went though 6 years of diapers and breastfeeding. Now it seems like forever but I am now done with it all. No starting over , no getting reacquainted with babies.

It was difficult at times but I would do it all over again in a heartbeat. My kids grew up with someone else to think about other than themselves and between naptimes and feedings we got our individual times.

I have a really good dh that was always there to help and let me go out when I was feeling overwhelmed.

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