traumatic first day

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traumatic first day
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Thu, 08-24-2006 - 8:53am

Oh my gosh!! I so wasn't prepared for the first day of 3rd grade! Nikki was sooo nervous! We found out Saturday that she'd outgrown all of her nice denim skirts. I've spent a fortune on school clothes this year, but all jeans and fall clothes, nothing on warm weather stuff, so picking an outfit was horrific. I got frustrated (I didn't expect my 8yo to outgrow skirts that were a size 12 and fit her great in the spring) and it showed, making her feel bad (I know!! Bad mom!!!). So then she starts crying while I'm straightening her hair. She's looking in the mirror, of course making it worse, and I was so worked up, feeling bad that my frustration had shown and worried that she was going to get a monster headache from crying. I tried to talk to her and redirect her attention, but it wasn't working, so then I got stern, which made it worse, of course. So she turns sheet white and then gags and acts like she's going to throw up!! After that she's an interesting color green. I swear I thought she was going to pass out!

I was finally done with her hair and got her down to breakfast, which seemed to help. We found an outfit that was acceptable. I just feel horrible that her first day went this way. I have to make it up to her somehow. So, guess I'm running to the mall today to pick out some cute skirts and short sleeved tops for her.

I hope the rest of her day goes better! Poor Nikki!

Erin

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Thu, 08-24-2006 - 8:56am
Aww, poor Nikki!
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Thu, 08-24-2006 - 9:11am
awww I hope the rest of her day goes better!! poor dear :(
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Thu, 08-24-2006 - 9:17am
Awww, poor NIkki :( Things like that happen, dont be so hard on yourself. Before Dom would go to preschool and I was getting him ready we had moments like that a lot...I hope she has a great first day!

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Thu, 08-24-2006 - 9:28am

oh no! poor kid! I hope her day goes well despite it's lousy start...

I remember my first days of school were always stressful too and I felt like I was going to throw up, but it always got better once I got there. I'm sure she's fine by now and is enjoying the day.

(and you're a good mom Erin! don't stress over it!!!!)

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Thu, 08-24-2006 - 9:43am
Awww, its ok. I am sure she wont remember all that when she gets home from school.
I hate the first day, too much drama for one day

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Thu, 08-24-2006 - 10:57am

Aww, Erin, things will smooth out. The first day's always nerve-wracking. It will soon be in the distant past and you are NOT a bad mom, LOL!! Matthew's starting 3rd grade too. When does Nikki turn 8, or is she already there? For some reason I spaced off the fact that ALL your kids are the same age as mine. Justin's going into kindergarten like your twins, too.

Matthew's nervous for school this year, too. We got a letter, and he found out he has the "mean" third grade teacher, and his best buddy up the street is not in his class. He told us he doesn't want to go to school. Michael told him then he has to go to Catholic school, and he said "In the church?! But how can I kneel and write at the same time?" LOL!

I hope her day went better, and that she found old friends, and likes her teacher, and comes home bubbling with excitement. This time of year is a little stressful for everyone.

Hugs,

Sofia




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Thu, 08-24-2006 - 11:26am

Oh man! That is a rough morning.


I hope her days goes much better and that you are able to get her some new cute skirts!


Nothing is worse to me anyway, lol, than clothes that don't fit.


I think you did fine with her - I prob would have gone through the same parenting things you did - probably in that same order.


Maybe make her favorite snack for after school? Devote time specifically to listening to every detail of her day - good or bad?


HUGS for N


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Thu, 08-24-2006 - 2:35pm

Nikki met her teacher and saw her classroom and classmates yesterday. She loves all of that (except the meanest 3rd grader in school is in her class, she says, LOL). I'm expecting she'll come home and have had a great day. I just feel extra bad having projected my stress onto her. I was so frustrated and dissappointed in MYSELF and she felt that as my being frustrated and dissappointed with HER. Having been an overweight child who had a terrible time finding clothes that fit and being too poor to have afforded anything considered fashionable, this kind of thing really causes flashbacks for me. I need to get that undercontrol and not let my problems influence her self-esteem.

So I went shopping today, concentrating on knit skirts with elastic wastebands and cute matching tops. She's going to be so surprised when she gets home and sees her new wardrobe. Dh is going to be so surprised when he gets the credit card bill, LOL. Fortunately, he'll totally understand as Nikki is a daddy's girl and he'd do anything to make her happy.

Thanks for all the hugs!
Erin

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Thu, 08-24-2006 - 4:04pm
Poor Nikki! I sure hope she has a great day at school and forgets how it started. (((HUGS))) for her. I'm sure the skirts and tops will make her happy! Hang in there.

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