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is twenty one month old ready for daycar
| Fri, 01-16-2004 - 3:22am |
Hi,
I've posted here some months ago and found the advice really helpful. Now I am in a big dilemma. Should I place my child in daycare next school year ( September)? She will be twenty one months old by then. The pros are as following: she will have peers, learn new things, and it will also give me some time to go back to my studies. The cons are: will it break the great bond we have? Will she think I am abandoning her? I am not thinking of taking her for the whole eight hours, I am thinking 4-5 hours a day max. I am really afraid of putting her before her time, although she usually really enjoys being with peers and meeting new faces. Anyone gone through the same thing? Need advice!
I've posted here some months ago and found the advice really helpful. Now I am in a big dilemma. Should I place my child in daycare next school year ( September)? She will be twenty one months old by then. The pros are as following: she will have peers, learn new things, and it will also give me some time to go back to my studies. The cons are: will it break the great bond we have? Will she think I am abandoning her? I am not thinking of taking her for the whole eight hours, I am thinking 4-5 hours a day max. I am really afraid of putting her before her time, although she usually really enjoys being with peers and meeting new faces. Anyone gone through the same thing? Need advice!

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I would suggest that you find a play group that you can drop your child off at for a few hours. Sometimes the YMCA or other communitys have programs that are for a few hours each week. I would think about your sec. Write up your day on paper. How much study time do you need? Is it necessary to have your child in day care for 6 hrs every day? After all if the child is in dc for 6 hrs everyday why not put them there for 8 hr your alomst there anyway? How much controll do you want over her enviorment? Perhaps you could contact collage in your area and ask to hire a nany somone who is trying to go into the child care area. A early education teacher, or day care worker, They could then come to your home and give your child the attention they need. While you study.
I don't want to seem cold or hateful here. I just see so many kids who parents ignore them and then wonder why their kids are out of control or in so much trouble in school. It just breaks my heart when I see kids begging for attention.
lm
My son is over 3 and I have him in pre-school but I don't keep him there for 5 hours a day 5 days a week. I think he is still too young and he LOVES preschool. When he is almost 4 (next sept) I will consider that long a time.
I'm also wanting to go back to school and did try to when he was 6 months old. It just didn't work out for me. I needed to have that guaranteed time frame to study and every time I tried to set aside time to study, then ds wasn't to bed yet, or household duties took priority. My solution to that was just to wait for school. When I'm done having kids and they are in school then I'll go back to school.
GL
Barbra and Caden, 3/7
And no, your child will not necessarily feel you abandoned her just because you take her to daycare. Each child reacts differently and she will have an adjustment period, but IMO 4-5 hours a day is not much.
If you truly want to go to school then you should do it. Just because you are a Mom now doesn't mean you can't still follow your dreams.
Good Luck!
Mary
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I have to disagree. Well partly at least.
When you bring a life into this world, your life basically gets put into 2nd string status. While giving your entire life over to your child isn't a good thing, everything you do has to be tempered with what is good for that child. That means that your dreams need to be put on the back burner if they will interfere with your child's needs.
I want to go back to work full time. I miss it. I actually loved my job and hated leaving it. However, working full time was not in the best interests of the life I brought into the world. So I quit to be a SAHM. I will go back to work eventually, but not until it will not hurt my son.
Oprah once said that you can have everything, just not at the same time! I truly agree with that. If going back to school means you put a child who is less than 2 into daycare for 30 hours a week then I say no. A couple of hours a day a few days a week is one thing, but 30 hours a week is way too much IMO.
I'm sure your child will be happy as long as you are too!
There are working parent support boards for other views.
Edited 1/18/2004 2:47:36 PM ET by ejkdmom
There are working parent support boards for other views. "
But why can't we be supportive of others decisions and needs? Yes, SAH is best for MY kids and MY family right now, but I completely understand the urge to "do something" and be someone other than just Mom. I WAH so that I can have something that keeps me working and gives me a sense of accomplishment other than my children. Don't get me wrong, I love my kids and I put them above everything else, but at the end of the day I am still more than just their mom.
mary
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We are all more than just moms. But when push comes to shove, my job is to be a SAHM. It does not define me but it is a part of who I am.
I did want to say that I am very offended that you would come here and challenge the SAH view. There is a board for that also. I suggest that you visit some of them.
I am not challenging the SAH view, but I am not going to put someone down for wanting to go to school. I AM a SAHM. I WAH when DH is home or when my kids are napping. But my boys are not in daycare.
Just because I have decided to SAH doesn't mean I'm not going to be supportive of someone wanting to get an education.
Why does it have to be and all or none situtation? I think its fantastic that you are SAHM to your kids, but does that mean I can't offer support to a poster asking for opinions or advice?
Mary
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