uggh, feelin OLD today!

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uggh, feelin OLD today!
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Sun, 01-11-2004 - 8:19pm
well, i hit the big 23 today, and dumb as it seems i'm feeling old! i've pretty much been feeling sorry for my lame self all day, and even I'M sick of me now, lol! but for crying out loud, i'm TWENTY THREE, i'm supposed to be out having fun and getting drunk, not laying on the couch in the same jammies i've had on all day getting up every half hour to nurse ds who has the stomach bug. what the heck, how did i get so lame? i told dh "man, this sucks, i used to be cool, and look at me now." and his only comment was "awww pudddin, you were never cool!" but i was, i swear i was!! dh asked me what i wanted for my bday and all i could think of was what i really wanted was for him to clean the house from top to bottom! (which he did, dear guy, and it really was an awesome present but still!) four years ago or even maybe two it would have been "buy me some sexy lingerie" or "lets go out to a concert" or even "lets get really drunk and go sing karaoke" or something crazy like that, and now it's "clean the house??" i love my kids and all, but sometimes i feel like i could go straight from changing diapers to wearing them and never miss a beat, heck, i'd probably have more fun in a nursing home! has anyone else had a midlife crisis looong before midlife? i almost went and got my nosed peirced just to make myself feel better, but then i started thinking abotu trying to match the nosering to the diaper bag and it all got to be too much, so i just curled up on the couch and watched some more cartoons, o joy.

just had to see if i was the only one feeling like this!

clarity

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Registered: 11-16-2003
Mon, 01-12-2004 - 2:11am
So, why didn't you hire a babysitter and go out? Or go out when your ds gets over the stomach bug. Just because you have kids doesn't mean you can't still have fun. You only feel as old as you allow yourself to feel:)

Mary


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Mon, 01-12-2004 - 6:51am
yup I agree,, you are only as old or YOUNG as you feel,, and act!! Um my b-day is tomorrow and I hasve 10 plus years on ya,, I did notice a wrinkle that just about killed me but other then that I am fine,, honey 23 is YOUNG!!! Live it up,, sing in the shower, go get a facial, go to the grocery store alone, LOL!! Happy Birthday!!

~Kim~


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Mon, 01-12-2004 - 7:33am
First of all, I would like to say Happy Bday :)

I am 24 years old with a 4 year old and a 1 month old......

I must admit there are days where I feel limited to what I can do in my life since I have 2 children. BUT I also know that I would be lost without my children. Even with all the fun things I could do as a non parent, I see so much more fun things to do with my children. I rather play with bubbles, or pratice numbers with my son, then to go to a club or out dancing. I can dance with my son if I am in need for a dance night.

Just remember, age does not make you feel old, you do.... Have fun with your children :) And have a wonderful bday....

Mel

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Mon, 01-12-2004 - 10:58am
I agree with what the others have said, just because you are married and have children doens't mean you can't have fun. Go out still that is what babysitters are for. I think going out regularly is very important as a couple. For yourself and your mate! I also think it is great for the kids. It teaches them that you leave but you always come back and helps them adjust to others. By the time I was 22 I had 5 children! Getting down on a b-day is natural but remember that you can still have fun!!! Make it happen. My husband and I date once a week!

Laura from Utah and mom to:

Deven 11

Amber 10

Bryen 9

Jered 8

Mikel 6

Ceaira 4

Taran 2

Talyn 1.5

Zane 0.5

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Mon, 01-12-2004 - 10:58am
I know how you feel! Except I'm 24 with three children ages 7, 4 and 2. Do the math, and you will find out that I really never had the "fun" time of my life. I don't really miss it, but my DH was a party animal when I met him, and he has always talked about all the fun carefree times he's had. THAT gets to me every once in awhile! LOL He did enough crap for ten people to flush thier lives down the toilet, and I was an outstanding student, calm "child" who was temperarally swayed by an older man, and I have been living the life of an "old lady" since then! I have never really let myself feel sorry for myself (I have always taken responsibility for my actions), but DH's stories do get to me every once in awhile! I love my life more than anything in the world, I think I am SOO lucky to be so blessed with an understanding, supportive husband, and three wonderful, beautiful children who I adore, but I always think... "I really missed out on all the 'fun'!" My most depressing thing is being swarmed by bills/debt at 24! So many other 24 yr old people think they have it rough keeping thier utilities turned on! I feel like I have 20 wolves chasing me every month! I think that's the most depressing part of being so young, but being held to so many responsibilities!! That REALLY gets me blue about my life!

Angie

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Mon, 01-12-2004 - 12:05pm
did i just right your post? because it sounds just like me iam 21 and feel 71 my dh and i joke all the time we went straight from are 20s to are 70s and missed everything else but i wouldnt change it for a minute
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Mon, 01-12-2004 - 12:50pm
My goodness. You are all too young for such complaints. I think you need to get going, either on a date or just walk with your babies in a stroller.

Find a babysitter take your dh for a date! Initiate a romantic evening. There is a book called 1001 Ways to be Romantic, by Gregory Godek. I use it to get be fun and romantic.

Get your kids to bed early and find some time. It might mean turning off the set or stop doing your chores.

I'm 40 and my husband we have been married 13 years! We make a point to connect together at least once a week sometimes more ;) Spend some quality time together.
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Mon, 01-12-2004 - 1:20pm
Happy birthday!!!!

Old..lol

Be who you are and say what you feel because those  who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.

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Mon, 01-12-2004 - 2:51pm
Wait until you hit 28! Oh, the stories my DH tells of when he was my age (he's gonna be 42). My stories consist of babies, diapers, sleepless nights. (I look at it this way, us young mommies, well, at least we'll be young enough when the kids are grown up to FINALLY have some time to ourselves before we hit the nursing homes! LOL!) Happy Birthday!Megan


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Megan
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Mon, 01-12-2004 - 3:41pm
This is EXACTLY what gets me through my tough times! LOL I figured it out, when my youngest is 18, I will be turning 40...not bad considering a LOT of women are waiting until they are 40 to START having babies, I will be YOUNG, footloose, fancy free! Plus, the way I see it, then DH and I will have stability and money that we never would have had when we first met. Imagine the fun cruise, vacations and road trips! We may not have had the play time when we met to do fun things, but we will sure have the time, and a LOT more resources when we are older!! ;) As long as there are no surprise babies down the road, we will be set! In my opinion, I'd be willing to give up "my time" with my DH either when we are young, or old, but NOT both!! It really does help me coup thinking that it will all be worth it when they are grown.

Angie

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