uggh, MEN!

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Registered: 03-30-2003
uggh, MEN!
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Tue, 04-13-2004 - 11:58am
I am about ready to kill dh (lol). The dryer broke on Sat. Dh being stubborn ( well ok pig-headed in my opinion) decided that he wanted to fix it himself. He SAID he would be ok with me calling someone, yeah right, he'd grumble at how much I paid someone else to do the job, and that they were incompetent. The stupid part won't be here until next week. It's supposed to rain all week, so I have to haul wet laundry and 2 kids ( we have spring break this week- joy) to the laundromat to dry the stuff. After 2 days of this- I have HAD IT! I have a test this week, I have yet to study for, at least she drops the lowest one, b/c I have no clue as to how well I'm going to do on it.

So we get into an argument last night, he tells me to go buy stuff for the kids. Yeah right! For starters, I have tons of it to catch up on, b/c for the last 2 weekends in a row the whole family's been in the Easter play that our church has put on, and I have had no time to do anything else! We had the il's here for 2 days last week as well. So then he says it's not fair for me to be yelling at him, and I say this is a MAJOR inconvenience on my part. It just bugs me that he says he's "saving" money doing it this way. Uh huh. It costs me $7 to do it this way each time ( gas, money to pay at the laundromat, and 5.50/hr for MY inconvienence). At this rate we're going to eat up everything we "saved " by doing it ourselves. And if I go buy new clothes for the kids, that will REALLY eat up the savings.

Thanks for listening to me!
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Registered: 04-13-2004
In reply to: sneakymom1
Tue, 04-13-2004 - 12:23pm
Oh I am sorry to hear you are having a hard time. We don't know each other yet, my Name is Dee and I have just started posting here, hope you don't mind me replying this early in?? I just read your post and it really hit home!!! but aren't ALL men stubborn!!!!!!!!!!!! my dh is the same way the only difference is after he "fixes" anything I still have to call a repair man!!!! I hope you get your dryer fixed real soon, take a breath and rember he means well !!!! (Sometimes that doesn't work for me until I have counted to a 100 first lol).



Take care and I hope to talk to ya soon.


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Registered: 03-24-2004
In reply to: sneakymom1
Tue, 04-13-2004 - 4:23pm
yeah, there really are alot of men out there who really don't see the FULL picture...or like you said, the end result of most likely spending more money in the end than what it would have cost you to have a professional fix it....AND, it would've been fixed by now too. my dh is very stubborn like that and only sees it as 'ME BEING THE STUBBORN ONE' so i agree and feel for ya...sometimes i just hate wasting my time and breath arguing about it..GOOD LUCK!!
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Registered: 04-10-2004
In reply to: sneakymom1
Tue, 04-13-2004 - 4:44pm
Sounds like your week is off to a really bad start. Heres my 2cents on making things easier on you. Just remember that you and your husband are partners you should try to work things out to make it more convenient while the dryer is broken instead of argueing about it. Argueing is probably making the situation worse, I know how pig headed husbands can be!!! I think you should wait to go do the laundry when your husband is home from work so he can stay with the kids, its already hard enough having to dry and fold clothes at a laundry-mat..let alone having kids with you. OR maybe he is willing to go do a few loads of laundry (of course you will probly have to sort it before he goes, heheh). If you absolutely have to take the kids, do you have and friends or family that might be willing to let you use their dryer? I really don't think you need to go out and spend all your savings on new stuff. I know how stressful it can be to argue about money, I think its one of the worse things that can affect a marrige, UGGH, my husband loves toys..boat, golf clubs & cart...etc...etc! Well, I hope things are looking up for you!

Take care,

Luna9903