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| Mon, 05-24-2004 - 9:58pm |
Anyone else have other moms/women tell you your next child will be a terror b/c your 1st, 2nd etc. is so good?
My son is a happy boy, outgoing and other than typical toddlerhood issues, a dream child. I don't know if it's a chance to rain on my parade or what, but SOOOOOO many moms (too many to count) have told me that my next child is going to be a terror b/c I've been so lucky w/ the first. They say things like: "oh don't think your next one will sleep so well", or "Your next one won't be so loving and cuddly".
My son is a happy boy, outgoing and other than typical toddlerhood issues, a dream child. I don't know if it's a chance to rain on my parade or what, but SOOOOOO many moms (too many to count) have told me that my next child is going to be a terror b/c I've been so lucky w/ the first. They say things like: "oh don't think your next one will sleep so well", or "Your next one won't be so loving and cuddly".
I'm just plain frustrated and disappointed that women are saying negative things like this when I believe we should all stick together and try to build one another up!
My mom says to ignore them, and I know that's the best thing; and I try to ignore the comments and put them out of my head...but I just have to know if anyone else has gone through this or if I just have a sticker on my head that says "Tell me how awful my other kids will be!!"
Thanks!

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I feel that different people say these things for different reasons. We *planned* (LOL) to have our children about 1 1/2-2yrs apart, well when dd was less than 5 mos. old I got pg with ds. Sometimes we laugh, sometimes we cry, sometimes we do both at the same time. Some days she is the angel, sometimes the devil and the same goes for him. Being a mom, or a dad, means learning to roll with the punches and rejoice in the joy.
good luck to all those expecting 2nd blessing!
I think people who have had a difficult baby are just trying to warn you that it MIGHT happen that the second one will not be like the first one, so be prepared and don't go into it thinking you know what it is like to have a baby in the house because you might be shocked to see what some babies can really be like.
Everyone is so quick to give the advice, you can take useful bits of information out of it, but don't listen to everything you hear. The most annoying advice I got (when my daughter was hitting all of her milestones very early) was "Early walker - late talker!" but she talks VERY well for her age (she was speaking in full sentances at 15 months old) so that comment was untrue as well.
Don't get upset about it, they are not UNSUPPORTIVE, they are just trying to share their experience of motherhood. Be happy you have a good baby and if your second one is also good, you can thank your lucky stars for that too. But don't EXPECT your second to be just like your first because that would just be silly.
~Jolene
Claire
Claire & Baby Liberty 2/18/04
I find it i annoying, its as if other moms are wishing a difficult child on me.
Edited 6/1/2004 11:53 am ET ET by luvinmyfour
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