Very angry and fed up wth the in-laws

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Registered: 08-27-2004
Very angry and fed up wth the in-laws
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Mon, 08-30-2004 - 11:16am
Well my in-law family is really my step family in-laws. My husband's father remarried way before we got married and so the family I'm talking about is my husband's step-mother and her side of the family. Without trying to go into too many details both my husband and I have had it with the whole lot of them. We had another dinner with his dad and step-family and it was the same old crud, the constant drama, fighting,drinking and all around obnoxious behavior. I hate going to these functions with them. When it comes to my kids no one listens to anything I say, for example if I say no to something they will go ahead and let the kids do it anyway. We aren't treated like family, its always like we are the outsiders intruding. These are not the knd of people want to raise my kids around. I'm probably rambling right now and probably haven't explained the situation very well. My husband and I came home last night both agreeing that we aren't dealing with his step-family anymore, no family dinners or functions. We will go to his dad's house and visit with his dad since we have nothing against his dad and we want him to see the kids. But even my husband's father has had enough of those people and whenever I go to one of these thngs he tells me how fed up he is with them. I'm going to stop typing now cause I'm sure I'm not makng any sense now.

Elaina
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Registered: 05-08-2004
Mon, 08-30-2004 - 12:20pm

((Hugs)) to you.


Well I would just follow your Dh's fathers lead. If he is not upset with you not visiting them then I do not see a problem. I would have your Dh discuss it with his father and explain to him that you and your family will just not be visiting the step in laws family anymore.


I don't think you have any obligation to them whatsoever!


Good luck!

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