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| Tue, 06-22-2004 - 1:57pm |
I so want another baby.
I love children and feel it is my part in the world to be a mom....
My husband says NO. I think it is unfair that his choice is also mine cause it is what he wants.
I just don't know what to do.
I love children and feel it is my part in the world to be a mom....
My husband says NO. I think it is unfair that his choice is also mine cause it is what he wants.
I just don't know what to do.



Sorry Mel. I want more to, and so does DH but we are afraid to have more.
I had diabetes and there is no choice but to have a c-section since I have already had 2. I aslo had a scare during surgery when my temp dropped really low.
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I had a question about your comment on this thread.....
You said "since foster kids are of course foster kids for a reason"
What do you mean by this?
Cari
Cari
Mom to 5 yr old girl and 2 yr old twinadoes!
uh..yeah. Guess tha didn't sound right. In our state unfortunetly cps does not seem to step in until the case is so extreme a child is in danger of dying. Instead of getting children help when it is a "small" problem they wait until the parents have so abused the child(ren) that they really need to live with someone who is trained and an expert almost in whatever abuse they suffered.
I would love to have foster children but they are taken from their home for a reason...meaning a parent or guardian has abused them to the extent that someone finally steps in. In Texas parents are given far to many chances to abuse their children. I had a foster sister who was sexually abused and actually sent back to live with the father that abused her from the time she was 2 until she was 14, she tried to commit suicide and said it was because she missed her family...so they sent her back!
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All children deserved to be loved no matter what they have done or gone through.
Food for thought:
If one person says yes and the other no, who should win? Is it fair to put the extra burden (not the right word per se) on a person who doesn't want it?
Basically, in this situation, the person who says no wins. Yes, it sucks for you, but it is the only "fair" solution. Did you guys talk about kids before you got married?
Has he given you a reason for his decision? Is it financial? Is it just scared? Does he truly feel that your family is complete? Is it a rational or irrational reason (as far as you can tell)? Talk it over. Maybe you can allay his fears. Or maybe he can help you feel better about your situation.
You need to know that you are a mom already. Having another child won't change that or make you more a mom. I know it is hard when you have a yearning, but try to just enjoy what you have. Have fun this summer. Go to the parks, the movies, playgrounds and just have fun!
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I understand that he wins...
I do not want a baby he did not want, not fair to him or the baby...
Just wish we could talk more about it and get both of are reasons for the answer we give.
I've no other advice, but understand your prediciment. My dh wants another, but I've put the brakes on it for now, maybe when Allie is 2 or 3 I'll consider it. I've told him that when they are older that I would consider adopting an older child (4-5 ish)but he's not going for that. He really wants a boy, and all I ever wanted were girls, so now that I have them I'm being selfish.
(((HUGS)))
Jennifer, Jessica 2/23/01, Alexandra 7/8/03
It sounded a bit harsh to me.
Edited 6/23/2004 6:16 pm ET ET by madaboutzin