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| Fri, 01-14-2005 - 6:24pm |
Hi out there to all you wonderful sahm's!!! I am a 39 year old sahm of two very precocious children, 5 and 1. I also happen to suffer from panic attacks, anxiety disorder and mitral valve prolapse syndrome. I don't take medication at the moment because I am in the weaning process still with my 14 month old. Is it unreasonable for me to ask my husband to help out around the house by picking up after himself or not bringing so much clutter into the home (he is an admitted pack rat)? Do you think dh should help clean the car or the yard? Between taking care of the kids, doing all the housework, cooking, bills, taking care of the car etc... I have been feeling very stressed and sick. I know that the running of the house is my job and I want to do it all but lately that has been so very hard. However, I don't want to nag dh (he works 45 hours a week) and is always sleepy. Maybe you all have some suggestions so I won't have to bother dh???
Sincerely,
Moviefan9

From my point of view no my DH comes home after work and if he see's that I didn't have time to fold the laundry he does it I don't even have to ask! He also keeps the car really really clean I think that just because we are sahm's doesn't mean that the DH's can't help they get breaks at work when do we ever get breaks!! Go ahead and ask him he should understand.
Amanda
Well I have a similar situation as you, but I only have
Sarah
I am sorry you are going through this!
I agree that It is okay to ask him for help. You have to be willing though for him to do it his way. I have noticed that If I just give my Dh at least 30 minutes to wind down after work, that he is very willing to help out.
I am pretty sure that Ivillage has a board for moms with anxiety oders for support. I will try and find that for you and post the link.
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I think if he sees that you need a break or some help, he should offer it.
I know we stay at home moms are responsible for keeoing things at home decent, but that does not mean we don't need a break, or we don't get sick, or don't need help.
I say ask him.
Good luck.