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| Tue, 07-12-2005 - 7:30am |
Katie has a friend that lives about 3 houses away. Kayla calls Katie to play, quite often, which I don't mind. She is a sweet girl and I like her parents. That is not the problem. The problem is, she and Katie go into Katie's room and devise plans. Then, Kayla comes out and asks me things like "Mrs. K, since Katie is sleeping over at my house on Friday, we thought I could sleep over tonight. My mom could pick me up in the morning on her way to work." O.K., first of all, Katie should be doing the asking. Second of all, Katie is only allowed to ask me when her friends are not here. My mom always told me the answer would automatically be "no" if we asked in front of our friends. Now I get it. It puts you in an awkward position. I had to explain why she couldn't (my sis is coming today). Then they asked what time? It doesn't matter what time, the answer is still "no". Sigh. Do you allow your children to just ask right in front of their friends? Also, I told Katie, Kayla is not allowed to ask. From now on, she is to tell Kayla that she will have to talk to me after she leaves. What do all of you think?
Wendy


I try and wait till its just Andrew and I.
It does put you in a bad position to have to say yes or no right then and there.
I agree with the no, if you are asked while they are there, very good rule.
Wendy, I think you are doing the right thing. Both of my girls have gone through this except a little differently. Lexus had a friend that would always tell Lexus what to say to me to get me to say yes. I could hear her whispering to Lexus. This little girl was very spoiled and always gets her way with her parents. Sometimes she would tell me herself "I know my mother would say ok that I spend the night", so one day I finally told her myself (when I heard her whispering to Lexus), do not be telling Lexus what to say anymore she has a mind of her own and this will definitely not help you staying here. Lexus then told me later that she hates when her friend does this so we decided that this girl can not come over anymore nor can Lexus go over there. With Mercedes her cousin always does this (asks me in front of Mercedes) as well as whispers to her what to say to me, so I stopped that. Even her own cousin I don't want coming over to spend the night anymore. Not to mention she is mean to Lexus anyway. I say stick with your decision.
Olivia
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Hey Wendy!
I do sleepovers with only one of my dd's friends right now only because we a close with the family. I like the way you handle it! I might change my ways...I just say "yes" or "no" because of the situation at the time. We have a neighbor girl that like to invite herself over or will ask her mom first before I am considered. I have sent her home to my dd's unliking and hers. How old is your dd?